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Communist Revolution
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I need some help with dating. Anything and everything you know about it would help. When school starts up again, I'm going to ask a girl out. I know she likes me, so that isn't the problem. The problem is... well there's more than one reason. I am quite anti-social, I have no friends whatsoever and therefore have terrible conversation skills. People think I'm boring because I don't know how to talk to/with people. And I'm not. Another problem is my extreme political views/outside image. She is relatively "regular" with friends, normal clothes, and all that. I am a Communist with crazily dyed hair and a trenchcoat(no affiliation with certain murderous individuals). I'm not sure why she likes me. I'm not even sure why I like her. What I really need help with now are my conversation skills(how to talk to girls). Right now all I plan to say is "Hi". No idea what to say after that. I'm very much new to this, so any type of advice you could give me I would appreciate. Thanks

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Gumdrop Girl
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heh, who said communists couldn't go on dates?

"hi" is always a great start. and i do love to chat, argue, and tubthump about politics. but it's hard to get into that unless both parties have a strong (yet civil) interest in the subject. otherwise, it kinda goes nowhere, or ends in a shouting match or hair-pulling contest.

but surely you have other interests besides Marxism? and i can only guess you rough outward image doesn't belie your gentler side -- that's something you'll have to put forward with a smile, a nod and a kind hello. do you like books? talk about literature then. movies? music? cooking? they're all valid topics of conversation.

or hey, maybe if she's really that cool, then maybe you two can sit down and discuss Marxism, and even argue its pros and cons.

and one last thing be polite.

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Kasper
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OPPOSITES ATTRACT!

Me and my bf are total opposites! He wears all black, likes skulls, and all that stuff.

I like bring cloths, and a really bubbley person and just happy all around.

Your differences might strike up a convo!

Talk about what you like what she likes, why ou like it, what you guys both like, every lil thing you can think of.

I know this might sound dumb, but maybe before you plan to talk to her you could make a quick lists of things to talk about, and just kinda maybe memorize them before you go.

Good luck!


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venusqueen
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urg. dont preach, what ever you do. there was this guy a freind was intoducing me to. after we got "hi" and names out the way, he bitched for 20 mins about women not having to do anything in war time and men allways having to go and get shot in their prime. i could have socked him in the face, but he's just an idiot. not worth it. if you have conflicking veiws, well- if you both enjoy a peacefull debate, good for you, yak it up. but if when your talking about each others veiws and you find yourself or her getting annoyed, keep away from the subject. by the way, guys who offer to carry books and buy lunch is always a plus, thats how it is at my deep-south school, mabe you dont go for that kind of thing, cood luck!
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Communist Revolution
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Thanks everyone! I can't wait to talk to her, because the wait is just killing me. Thanks again all.
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I haven't had any past experience in relationships, but I do watch a lot of TV (kidding).

I once posted on here a while back about what to say to my crush (he was online); about how to say hi, what to talk about, what if he thinks I'm weird, etc. Anyway, the feedback I got was to "let it flow." Don't worry about what he/she's going to say, just talk. Before you know it, it could develop into more important things!

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