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xlilfallenangelx
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I'm 16, and my boyfriend is 17 almost 18. He's a senior and I'm a junior and I'm ashamed to say this but I'm not very experienced at all when it comes to relationships. I'm shy, but I guess I'm starting to get more outgoing and mature about it. I'm still learning. THe only thing I've done is kissing and I just started going out with this guy at the beginning of this week. The truth is, he's more experienced than I am. He's had sex more than a few times I guess and he has serious relationships. I'm serious but I always feel like I'm slowing him down and he's expecting more. We talked about it, and I'm sure he respects me because we talked about it for hours on the phone. We both hang out with two entirely different groups though and its hard. He d oesn't like hanging out in the cafeteria which is where my group hangs out. There's also this girl I know who's friends with him and I think she likes him cuz she's holding his hand and she leans on him! It really bugs me cuz she knows I'm going out with him and it also bugs me that he doesn't push her away. Am I overreacting or should I let them keep doing this? I'm so afraid to say much tho because I told someone how I felt and it ended up in a breakup *sigh* HELP please.

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Kasper
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Umm, being unexperienced it fine. Hell I was. My current bf has been my first for EVERYTHING. I was not ashamed of it. He was WAY more experienced than me. He knew that I was unexperieced and never had a bf. But it was ok.

Anyways If someone was holding my bfs hand, I would go up to her nicely and ask her to stop it. Make it clear that he is yours now. And also have a talk with your bf. Tell him you dont apprecate him holding her hands.He should understand. Be nice, but firm

Good luck!


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somewhatanonymous
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If it were me, I would not worry at all about him holding hands with some other chick. Some people (like me) are just normally fliratious, and it doesn't nessesarily mean anything. It really bothers me when people are possesive, of me or of the people I'm flirting with. Just be confident and secure, and then it's shouldn't make you paranoid if someone else hits on you boyfriend. If it bothers you, talk to him about it, but don't expect him to change the way he naturally interacts with his friends.
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Sooqe
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It'd bother me a lot if my gf went around holding hands with another guy... It's not the guy I'd be worried about but the impression she'd be giving off.

Anyway, to answer the original question about being experienced I wouldn't worry about it. I found out about two weeks ago my current girlfriend feels the same way you do about me. She knows I've had a lot of serious girlfriends and I'm her first serious boyfriend.
I considered the possibility that she felt like that (it'd have explained a lot at the start) but when we finally talked about it I explained (truthfully from my point of view) that every relationship makes you feel inexperienced again I was v.v.nervous first time with (yer, that sorta with) her even tho I've probably had sex umm, a 1000 times or so.

In short, don't worry, he's probably just as nervous as you.


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xlilfallenangelx
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thanks guys, i appreciate it.

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naturalwayz3787
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if another gurl was holding my boyfriends hand i would be questioning that. gurl you have to talk adn communicate wiht him. tell him hoiw u feel about that and maybe things will change . and in good ways. soo talk to him ok and tell him that it bothers you and anything else. just ask and i can help. i was in the same situation just lik you. unexperienced. now i have went all the way, and u dont have ot go all the way if ur not ready tell him that. say to him thar i think u might be goign to fast for me or even i think im not as experienced as you but can you please not rush.ANYTHING ELSE!!???
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Punkrockgirl31
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Just wanted to say one thing, if some girl was holding my boyfriend's hand...I would be really mad. Cause it would mean he was holding her hand too, cuz he coulda stopped her. ok, done commenting.
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