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BabyAngel84
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Hey everyone it's been a looong time since i last posted, well heres the deal, me and my b/f erik have been together for 1yr. 4mo's, i'm not one of those girls who say i'm in love with a guy after being with him for a week, me and him are both very serious about it, and we have not yet exchanged those 3 words, one time when i mentioned love to him he said he would never love me, i figured it was because he's busy with school and work, and is planning on moving about an hr. away and doesnt wanna get hurt cuz he has been before so i decided to drop the subject and keep my feelings to myself so i wouldn't get hurt. well....

A couple of mo's ago erik started mentioning the love thing every chance he could get. he'd be like "because ur in love with me, or "you're in love with me aren't you...Aren't you" he brings it up all the time as if hes waiting for me to tell him but i'm scared to because of what he had said before about never loving me. but i finally figured that maybe his views have changed and that he ended up falling for me, so i was all excited thinking that if i told him he would say "i love you too"

Well yesterday he came and visited me at work, and we just recently slept together for the 1st time the day b4 thanxgiving so he was joking about how "things change" like how he came to visit me and everything so i jokeingly replyed "i think its cuz ur in LOVE with me arent you!!" cuz he always says that. but he responded w/out heisitation "NOPE, I'll never love you"

I dont' get it!! why would he continuously try and get me to tell him i love him when his response would be "I don't love you, but i really like you a lot" thats like the last thing a girl would want to hear after she says I LOVE YOU a few weeks ago when he mentioned it and he asked why i wouldn't say it i told him cuz i didn't feel he loved me, and he's like "why would u think that, what if i told you i was more than just in love with you" thats a major lead on!! making me think a lot of things!!! i don't get it, i hope hes just saying "i'll never love you" because of him moving in a few months and not wanting to get emotionally attached to me he was hurt really really bad by his ex-g/f of 2yr's and 3mo.

What do u guys think? sorry this is sooooo long, i've been wanting to vent cuz he just said it yesterday and i can't stop crying, it hurt so bad hearing him say that to me, my hopes were up so high that maybe he felt somewhere near about me the way i feel about him....well thanks you guys!!!

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* No man/woman is worth your tears and the
only one who is, will never make you cry.
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If you love someone, put their name in a
circle, instead of a heart, because hearts can break,
but circles go on forever.
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Everyone hears what you say. Friends listen
to what you say. Best friends listen to what you don't
say.
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If all my friends were to jump off a
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Kasper
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First off Im sorry!

But anyways, you are right, maybe your bf does not wanna get too attached cuz hes moving. But in a way it sounds to me like he already is attached, and does not want to show it to you. Maybe he wants to keep is feelings bottle inside of him. Maybe he does not know how to show his emotions. There is a million maybes. Why dont you ask him why he will never love you. You 2 have been together for a while, and seem to be serious. Communicate with him and ask him why he is 'leading you on' as you say. Communication is the best way to go. Good luck!!!


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BabyAngel84
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Thanx Kasper thats pretty good advice and i'll be sure to ask him why he said that next time i see him!!
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Kasper
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Glad I could help! Let us know how it turns out! Good luck!
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pickles
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ssounds to me like he really luvs u but is afraid to show it. tell him leading you on is not cool. good luck


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BabyAngel84
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well turns out he never even recalled saying it, i mentioned it and he was clueless, he told me that he doesn't not love me lol, so i'm happy and we're happy! thanx u guys!!1
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entropie
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I think you should read what you just said:

quote:
What do u guys think? sorry this is sooooo long, i've been wanting to vent cuz he just said it yesterday and i can't stop crying, it hurt so bad hearing him say that to me, my hopes were up so high that maybe he felt somewhere near about me the way i feel about him....

then read your own sig line:

quote:
* No man/woman is worth your tears and the
only one who is, will never make you cry.
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That is all.

[This message has been edited by entropie (edited 12-08-2001).]


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BabyAngel84
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i know good point, but as you might have read it was all miscommunication and never remembered saying it so it's all good and my crying was becuz of miscommunication and conclusion jumping or however u want to put it

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* No man/woman is worth your tears and the
only one who is, will never make you cry.
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~
If you love someone, put their name in a
circle, instead of a heart, because hearts can break,
but circles go on forever.
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*
Everyone hears what you say. Friends listen
to what you say. Best friends listen to what you don't
say.
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~~*~*~*~*~*~*~*
If all my friends were to jump off a
bridge, I wouldn't jump with them, I'd be at the
bottom to catch them.*
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*


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Alaska_boy
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entropie does have a point with that one babygirl.
I'm glad that it all worked out for you. thats so cool. remember every little bit of it. dont forget a thing.
well i was going to say it but your so happy i dont wanna bring ya down with my pessimstic views.
-AB

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BabyAngel84
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You can tell me AB?? what are ur views? i'm good and i know how our relationship works and so i'll know whether i should take ur views into consideration or not?! i like hearing both positive and negative things. I'm not telling the whole entire story of how everything got mixed up or anything or how we got on the conversation etc... it's to much to write. so i know it's harder for you guys to give an opinion when you don't know all the circumstances but i appreciate everything and am making sure i don't jump to conclusions and that we don't have miscommunications. thanks everyone!
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Alaska_boy
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I was going to say try to live in the moment. remember all you can about the good stuff that happens between you two. Because one day its going to end. so make sure the time you are spending together is well worth your time. cause life is only so long.
told you it was depressing.
sorry i just got things happening to me right now. Kinda wasted me time with a girl.
-AB

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Kasper
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Alaska boy... not all relationships end ya know...
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Gobo
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quote:
Originally posted by Kasper:
Alaska boy... not all relationships end ya know...

Impending death? Since none of us know what happens after a person dies, we can't be sure a relationship continues.


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Alaska_boy
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Yeah....but none of em ever last to long Kasper. thats why you gotta be sure what your doing..is well worth your time.
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