I have a friend online that I've known for a few months no, we've both seen pictures of eachother. I want to meet him, but I don't know how to come about this with my mother. She also might be a little surprised about the fact that him and I look like opposites. He's got a mohawk and is a total punker. But he's a really sweet guy. And what if I ever want to go about having a relationship with him? Any help is appreciated!
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It's perfectly fine for you to want to meet this guy, but there are a few precautions that are always necessary when handling this sort of thing.
1) Bring someone with you. Over the internet someone can seem really great, but it is also possible that they aren't the same way in reality. Never go meet anyone alone.
2) Meet in a very public, crowded place. Having a lot of people around also ups the safety levels.
3) Make sure that you always feel comfortable and secure. If there's ever any pressure to do anything or go anywhere, you have the perfect right to say no.
As for your mother, she'll probably be a little wary of the idea. Maybe it would be a good idea to bring her along? But if that's not what you have in mind, explain to her the precautions you're going to take so that she knows you're handling it responsibly.
just a thought, you may want to spend some time on the telephone with this guy before you meet in person, it's a nice intermediate step. i have to agree with and repeat the MEET IN PUBLIC part of the previous post. i know that if you want to meet this guy you have some feeling of trust...but it is really easy to misrepresent yourself online, and you can never be too careful. if you don't want to actually bring a friend along, at least let one know exactly where you'll be, and if possible carry a cell phone and instruct one or more friends to call you at some point during the day/date. if he's a decent guy he won't mind your taking security precautions - he'll respect you for taking care of yourself. i have to say i tend to be sketch on meeting people from online, but only b/c i've had some weird experiences (nothing dangerous, just some people who weren't nearly as intersting in person as they were online). good luck and let us know how it goes! 'rin ps - there's nothing wrong with punks, my little brother is a total punk - weirdly shaped mohawk, a full shoulder tatto, multiple ear peircings, occational gothing makeup, etc, and he's a great kid - he's in his firt year at culinary school, works full time, and generally is a good guy.
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