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orbitz
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Hey there,
I was wondering if I could have some tips here on how to remain cool during the following:
This guy that I had a class with for a few months likes me, but w haven't seen eachother in 8 months. We talk on the net all the time, and I finally gave in and agreed to go to a movie with him. But since then I've put on a little weight (not much.. but makes me self concious) and I feel that I look different not and might kinda deflate his crush on me. This week we're going to a movie, but I'm already nervous.
Any tips on how to make this go smoothly?
Thanks guys!

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Later gator!
*orbitz, ash.
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DarlingBri
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Hi there...

Remember that 8 months is a while, sugar, and guess what? He's changed too! he may be taller or heavier or thinner; maybe his voice has changed, or maybe it's the same as it ever was.

The point is, you two get along and want to hang out, and that's what you're going to do!

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Hope this helps,
--Bri


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orbitz
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Thanks
I guess that made me realize that *DUH me* it's a mutual thing that we DO want to hang out..but I'm worried he may have false or old and invalid expectations of me!

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make LUV, not war!


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DarlingBri
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But the truth is that you will both probably have changed on the outside, and changed some on the inside, too... he is probably self aware enough to know that he's different, too. It won't shock him if you are. You know those cousins you only see at Christmas or Thanksgiving or whatever? Nobody expects them to turn up and be the same year after year, do they?

You know, that's sort of what the whole "dating" thing is about... getting to know each other.

This will be fun and interesting, to see how much you've changed and how much you still have in common. I mean, if you've been communicating for 8 months, you obviously still have things about each other that interest you, yes?

If it's any consolation, you will change through your whole life. I'm 30, I've been with the same person for 5 years, and *neither* of us is the same as we were when we met.

Change is life, change is good, change is natural, change should be no surprise


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orbitz
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Hi there again!

Thank you, you really reassured me about things. I was thinking so much about what he'd think of me that I was oblivious to the idea that he has changed too!
This will help me out when, this week we actually go out. It's better off anyways, that if he doesn't like what he gets, that I find someone that WILL.
You rock..and thanks!

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Later gator!
*orbitz, ash.
make LUV, not war!


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You are very, very welcome... and I hope you have a nice time
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