OK, I have the lamest of all problems. So Homecoming is slowly approaching for my school (November 10th). Now, there is this guy that I like but rarely, rarely, rarely ever talk to named Hans. Well, I asked him if he was going to go to Homecoming in which he responded "I would if someone asked me." So of course, a couple of days later I fetch up the nerve to ask him to the dance. Badda bing, a-badda boom, he says yes. Goodie.
Now comes the problem. We both are super quiet and shy around eachother and we haven't spoken since I asked him to go with me (about... a week and a half or two weeks ago). He's really well known in our school (we're both sophomores, and he is a "radical punk" as some describe him, lol) and he'll talk to other people... but... with me he just sorta sits there.
Does anyone have any advice to help get our conversations moving? He's super sweet and I'd be really interested in persuing a relationship that's more than just friends... but I think we'd have to actually talk to eachother for that to happen :P
Also, one other thing to add weirdness to the situation. His mother is my French teacher. That just adds another layer of oddness...
Why don't you try to arrange to see him some time before Homecoming? Even something like asking him over to your house to play scrabble- that way you'll have something to do that will probably lead into conversation. And you'll be more comfortable with each other when the time comes to go to the dance. Most likely, he's just being shy around you because he likes you too.
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"...just another nancy boy" oh gosh, i have ot listen to that song now!
why not talk about music? do you have any common ground there? i find i can rattle on and on about my favorite bands and albums. or talk about bands that suck. i find that's a good start for a funny conversation.
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I don't really have any advice for you, since I am so shy too, and it usually takes me more than a few times with the person until I am a bit more relaxed around them (not necessarily romantic relationships, friends as well, esp. boys hehe) ... but I'd like to say something though...!
I love Placebo! lol And the song I've been most listening to during the last few weeks, is Nancy Boy (acoustic version somewhere! hehe)
It's a weird thing, but music is the best subject for shy people... mostly because everyone likes it, and you can tell eachother about different bands you like and stuff. The other day 3 people came up to me because I was wearing a Weezer shirt, and I talked to them about Weezer like I knew them forever ;-) Music is a universal conversation starter. Ah, I love it..
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Today, after English, he went up to me and talked about his Harry Potter lunchbox and Teddy Graham cookies. I asked him if he told his mother (my French prof) in which he, not shockingly, said yes. Eeks. His sister is driving us... which I don't know if that's a good or bad thing.
Yet I am not satisfied. It's time to put that Veronica-charm at an all time high and make him swoon. Swoon, baby, swoon... :P
Yay! There was a football game today so I got to see him (he's in band, not football ). So... during halftime I motioned for him to join me and my friends which he did, and it was super cool. He was wearing this skimask so I stole it from him and wore it the rest of the game. This girl who I don't know (she's a grade older than me) came over to talk to us, too... and she kept on reffering me and "my guy" as boyfriend and girlfriend making us both feel weird. Hmm. Oh well, all in all a nice night.
OK, so we're talking a hell of a lot more, though we still don't hang out with eachother at lunch, or anything of that manner. It turns out his family is taking this Homecoming thing very seriously, making him take me to dinner, take pictures, and buy me flowers. Hahaha, it's sorta cute, actually
OK, I need some more advice now (I'm terrible at this flirting thing). How can I show physical signs that I want to be "more than friends"? Is it too much to just sort of put my hand on top of his in class, or put my head on his shoulder? I was majorly debating this last English class when the opportunity was quite good. I want him to get the hint... but I don't want to seem pushy. Oh, boy, I'm lame
Well, personally I'd think that that kind of serious physical flirting has no place in a classroom. Ask him to sit with you at lunch or something if you intend to physically put the moves on him. But, you're in class to pay attention and learn things, and it's very very distracting not only for your partner, but also for other students if you're trying to interact physically with your boy that way. So I might steer clear of that.
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