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Kasper
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Ok guys, sorry to ask for advice again but here it goes.

I had a best friend in high school for 6 yrs. She has always been really flirty and all over guys. Before I was going out with my bf she was kinda all over him. When we started going out she backed off a bit. I kinda know she dident like him, but it bothered me a lil the way she would constantly flirt with him.

All 3 of us went out about 2 months ago. She wasent as flirty (like touchy) but the way she was talking kinda got to me. I dident say anything and I let it go.

I havent seen her in 2 months, or really talked to her for that long either too.

Recently she got a computer and got online. She got a hold of me, and was talking for a lil. She asked me for my bf screen name. I signed off quick and dident give it to he(that probably wasent the best thingy to do). I havent talked to her since then. Ive been avoiding her.

Well last night my bf went to look for a job, and they bumped into each other. I guess they exchanged sn, and were talking online last night. It got me a lil upset, but I dident tell him what I was thinking, when I know I should have.

Well Im trying to say is that I dont trust my friend. She never wants me to have anything, and Im thinking now that Ive got him, she wants him. What can I do!? I dont think Im being selfish or jealous? Its just the facts. Thanks alot!


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Then you have to talk to her and tell her how you feel about the situation. You cant just stop talking to your best friend, maybe she doesnt even know that she is doing what she is doing. You have to view her side of the story also.

Talk to her, and see what happens. Then give us an update.

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Kasper
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What if she gets offened by me even thinking something like that?
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Well if she is your friend then she should understand where you are coming from.

You dont come out and say "Well I dont trust you." You say something for her to get a clue on what you are feeling.

I know that it is hard, but its something that you have to do.

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Glitter's dead on with this one.

Talk to her about it. Just letting it lie and avoiding her will get nothing done. And if you're really feeling unsure, why don't you talk to your boyfriend about and tell him how you're feeling?

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Kasper
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Thanks guys alot!

I emailed her asking her how school and stuff was, and I told her I heard she seen my bf. She said yea, and told me what they talked about and stuff. I think she was being honest. If she was gonna do something, she wouldent be honest right?


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