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sometimesgirl
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First off, thanks to everyone who responded to my first post, you really helped out, and if you want to know how everything's going now just mail me. Well, I have a new question. This sounds really stupid but my sort-of boyfriend calls me "babe" all the time, and I can't stand it! I don't know why.... Please tell me I'm not being stupid!

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XoXoGrl8
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Everybody has their lil quirks. That is just one of yours. Personally I like being called "babe" and "hun". I call all of my guy buddies that and nobody seems to mind. However, if you don't like it just tell him nicely and I'm sure he will listen!
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Absolutely, positively not stupid at all. In fact, I think everyone has a name that they would rather not be called. A little while back I had a very special girl tell me she'd unleash the Fires of Hades if I called her "babe." So the best thing you can do is tell your boy that you would rather he called you something else. Be direct and polite about it, and you should have no trouble at all. Take care...

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Gumdrop Girl
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aie! i hate being called "babe." i usually say to that, "i have a name. don't ever call me 'babe'." they get the hint right away.

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Last year, I had this guy friend, and he always called me "doll". Ahhh! How I hated that... he made me feel so stupid when he'd say that!

But I do love being called hun, sweetie, and babe. Everyone is different!

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LilBlueSmurf
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Ya know ... whenever i hear "babe", i think of the pig ... that cute little piggy that lived on the farm and whatever. It was a movie. And a very cute one, at that.

If you don't like it, tell him. If he respects you, he'll stop.


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am i the only one around here who doesnt mind those kinds of names?

But im weird, my heart flutters everytime i hear my S.O. say my name. I know its weird, but i like the sound of my name. "Tori" its so not common. But i like it even more when people call me Victoria. hehe. i love names.


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Ooooh! I love it when guys say my name, too! It makes me feel special, cuz they know my name... so obviously, to them I exist!

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My boyfriend and I call eachother babe all the time. I always liked it, and I never thought about a pig when we say it to eachother.

But you arent being stupid, if you dont like that your boyfriend calls you a certain name, then you have to tell him. Its not a big deal. If you really cant tell him how you feel about this, there are bigger situations to come~ you have to communicate with eachother. So just tell him I am sure that he wont mind to call you something different.

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i call loadsa ppl sweetie and honey and kittie and sugar and all that rubbish. no one seams to mind, but i guess it is just the person that it is coming from sometimes it is annoying and sometimes it's cool. just say in your loveliest voice that you don't like it.
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sometimesgirl
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I told my guy I didn't want to be called babe anymore last night and he seemed really cool about it! He asked me if he there were any other pet names that bothered me and I said no. I'm so glad I got that one over with. Thanks everyone!

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See gurlie, we told you that everything will be okay! Its just a matter of commuicating! I'm glad that everything went smoothly.

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I know what you mean, I like when guys say my name when they talk to me, or when they say hi to me... it feels more personal I guess. Like when you're in the hallway and someone says "Hey ____" It makes me smile :-D

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You're not being stupid. Personally, nobody refers to me as their "boy toy"... the moment someone places me equal to an inanimate thing is the moment I walk out the door. I can't imagine being compared to an infant is much better.

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quote:
Originally posted by Siouxsie:
i call loadsa ppl sweetie and honey and kittie and sugar and all that rubbish.

Same here! I'm known for calling all my friends (and sometimes acquaintances) dear, babe, sweetie, baby, honey, etc. I remember my younger cousin getting mad at me because I kept calling her things like "dear" and "baby".

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