Well I thought I had gotten over my boyfriend.But I havent yet.Then he calls me because were friends and says Oh yeah so and so came over here and she was sitting on my bed.That really hurt my feelings.I think im depressed,because I can't really sleep,Im 14 going on 15 Im like 5'6 and I normally weigh like 100 lbs but I lost like 5 lbs.I can't eat,I can't concentrate in class.It bugs me because everytime I tell my mom she's like your only 14 you don't know what love is.She dosen't even know what we did.If she did she'd probably know how I feel.But Im sad and I always cry,and people tell me im overly emotional.I can't help it.Every time I see him I just wanna cry.Please tell me what I should do.Thanks.
Posts: 15 | From: Houston,Texas,Usa | Registered: Jul 2001
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You aren't overly emotional because you're hurt or angry when you see your ex. These feelings are perfectly normal and anyone who's criticizing them is in no position to tell you otherwise. Seeing someone you were close with from a distant point is one of the hardest things a person can go through in life. But, rest assured, it will be okay.
Sometimes after breakups, one or both partners goes through a period of depression. A lot of different thing factor into each case, but it is normal. The best thing you can do right now, believe it or not, is to talk about it. Tell you best friends how you feel. If you feel your mother doesn't understand then explain to her clearly where you're coming from. Having those people to back you up and support you can be one of the best things to lift your spirits!
I fell in love for the first time when I was 14. That break-up hurt as much as any I've ever gone through -- I think your mom might just not want to see you hurting -- surely she knows you know how to love, right? I mean, you love her...
What makes you feel good? What keeps your mind busy? It helps me to only listen to happy music (put the badly drawn boy away for now!), to stay busy, to do things with friends that keep me preoccupied, that I have to use my mind for.
I know it doesn't help much, but time will help these feelings go away -- it's just getting through this time that sucks.
Posts: 3 | From: san francisco, ca, usa | Registered: Sep 2001
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OK, I've mentioned this idea to a few girls before, and it's kinda stupid but it helped a lot back in the day. A couple of my friends and I were all going through some messed up stuff w/ guys. I was dating this guy who treated me terribly-yet I was hooked on him, my friend was trying to deal w/ a long-distance relationship (she came from Nebraska to North Carolina) and my other friend had just broken up w/ her highschool sweetheart. So, we started a night at "The Pit". We all worked at a resturant and called the smoking section "The Pit", and b/c we were all in the pits, we would split a dessert once a week w/ all girls and just talk about our love problems and offer advice and support. It only lasted like a month, but it helped me threw hard times when I needed it. Plus, it's just a fun girly thing!!
Posts: 62 | From: Raleigh, NC, USA | Registered: Mar 2001
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