I recently broke up with my now ex-boyfriend, Adam*, and if any of you read my post about that ordeal you would know that it was VERY messy (heartbreaking, emotional, ect.) Well, about a week after Adam and I called it quits, one of his close friends, David*, asked me to go to the movies with him. I went, and I think I may like David a bit now that I see him in a "new light." Before I only considered him a close casual friend. Anyway, the problem is that I think I still love Adam, but maybe it isn't love. Adam and I went out for two years, so maybe I'm just afraid of being on my own. I don't know. And the thing with David is confusing as well, because if there is a possibility that I still love Adam I don't want to "play" David because I think that is the worst thing someone could do to another person. So, what should I do? I need help bad, and this is the best site I know. Thanks! (*names have been changed)
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Hm.... It can be really hard to start a new relationship right after you've gotten out of an old one. If you're going through lots of confusion over this perhaps it might be a good idea to hold off on dating anyone until you have your feelings sorted out.
You were with Adam for two years and it's only been a week since you've broken up so it's very unlikely that all your feelings for him are gone, and that's completely normal. If you went through a rough time with him, though, perhaps it is a good idea to let go of him and move on. It's going to take time, but it sounds like the best option.
As for David, tell him your concerns. Tell him exactly what you're confused over and how you're wondering what feelings you still hold for Adam. If he's a good guy he'll understand and give you the time and space you need.
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