hey people. i have a small question (well, not that small) which i would kind of like your opinions on. i have been oing out with my b/f for about 3months and recently we broke up because it just wasn't working. he wanted to get back togther after and i said basically 'we'll see how it goes'. we went to a club last night with loads of mates and i said we should just cool it and have fun. well, i had fun, and he was miserable all night. i flirted alot with loads of people and tried to get him to enjoy himself aswell but he was a lost cause. the reson we broke up was his significant inability to have fun and i was annoyed with him. he still annoys me. at the club i started getting on really well with someone, only this someone happened to be his brother *cringe*. now i don't want to go out with my b/f but i don't want to hurt him coz he has loads of baggage already, he says he loves me but the feeling isn't mutual i said that over the summer i just wanted to have fun. but i really don't want to hurt him, i care about him alot. shall i stay with him so as not to hurt him even though i'm not happy? or leave him for good and mess him up even more by 'playing the field with his brother and others too'? i want to experiment with others but then the plrase b***c springs to mind. uh-oh!
------------------ One owes respect to the living. To the dead one owes only truth ~ the Crow
1) In general, dating other family members even after a breakup creates a real mess and ends up being hurtful to the family as a whole.
2) Why not be honest and fair? Instead of a "maybe I will/maybe I won't" approach, be decisive. Leaving someone in limbo because you don't know what you want ir are concerned with how it'll make you look really isn't very fair or considerate in my book. If your partner annoys you, and you aren't getting along, sounds to me like it'd be best for both of you that you simply cut the strings now so that not just you, but your boyfriend as well, can move on. Staying with someone you dislike and aren't committed to doesn't hurt them less, because you essentially are then controlling them and keeping them from being happy.
Breaking up may hurt at first, but in the long run, it is a lot kinder and more honest, if you ask me.
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