Well im so sad because my boyfriend for like10 months now is leaving for 2weeks to go visit his Aunt he just got back from Dallas from seeing his grandma.And I havent seen him alot! infact it was only one day for about an hour and 1/2.I miss him so much.And he called me at like 10:00pm and we were talking but only for about like 20minutes!Just because he said he had to go to sleep early beacause he was leaving early in the morning.And he's always w/ his friends I mean always!Im so sad beacause when we were 1st going out he always called me and we talked for about 3or 4 hrs each night untill we couldent talk anymore.NOw it seems like he barley ever wants to talk to me,and when we do he always is tired or has to watch his lil brother and sister.This happend like right after we started getting serious not too serious though just like making out w/ our clothes on.My friends are like you should break up w/ him hes too immature for you.But we both care for eachother very very much!!HE always says I love you and I say it back and I know him he really does care for me and I really care for him.But latley it just seems like he's slaking off and not doing his boyfriendly duties!!And oh yeah im 14 my birthday is in November and he's 12 going on 13 on August 14 which is like 2weeks from now so lets just say he is 13.Do you think he is not ready for a relationship right now??
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Unfortunately there is no boyfriend/girlfriend handbook and no specific 'duties' are outlined. If you feel like your boyfriend has been "slacking off" then you need to tell him so. Have a serious talk with him about it and let him know that you aren't pleased.
If after this things don't change, then you need to do what you need to do in order to make yourself happy. I hope things work out for you.
I don't find that there are any "boyfriend duties." It doesn't sound like he's slacking off. It just sounds like he's really busy which every one gets that way sometimes. Whatever feelings you have, you should express to him your concerns about your relationship instead of trying to decide if you should basically just call him up and go "we're through!" and never talk to him again. The best relationships, whether romantic or not, rely heavily on communication. You should be able to talk to him whether it's in person or over the phone about what you're feeling. Find whatever situation you're most comfortable talking to him in and set it up so you two can have a nice long chat. It'll probably make you feel better so you're not left hanging and wondering what in the world is going on (trust me, I've been there too many times).
There are no guidelines to a relationship though because every relationship is differnet.
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