my boy erik who i've been with for almost a year now, forgot about my birthday...he knew the day it was on...but forgot about it i guess, i had to remind him to wish me a happy b-day!...he said he would show me what he got me the next day but forgot again because he was really busy that day with orientations for his new job and picking up his car, he told me he had planned on taking me out to my fav resturant but it was getting late. when he came back later that evening to pick me up he had gotten me flowers and a card that he picked up on his way over at like Jewel or somthing!
I'm so hurt that he forgot, it made it even worse when he gave me the flowers, i know that he really cares about me, but my friends say that if he didn't even take time to go get me a gift that i should dump him and that he doesn't care about me as much as he says he does. But i know he does care about me, i know he can't be using me or anything becuz we've been together a year and he's never pressured me about sex. he says that he respects me to much and doesn't want me to regret anything that happens w/our relationship. erik is very hott and has a lot of girls who like him who are very pretty, while i am not, so he can't be using me and i know he cares about me alot. but it hurts so bad that he didn't think about me when it came to my b-day, i don't want to dump him because of it though, i really really like him!!! what should i do??
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Posts: 161 | From: Kenosha, Wisconsin, USA | Registered: Jun 2000
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I'd have to disagree with your friends' judgement on what shows that he cares. How much money he spends on you or how many gifts he gives you doesn't show how much he cares about you. It's really all about how he feels about you. It wasn't like he was spending too much time with his friends, hence, he forgot your birthday. By the sounds of it, he was too busy with his new job, etc. that those are circumstances that he really can't avoid. I'm sure that he really cares about you though, but your birthday just happened to land during a very busy time in his life. I'm sure he'll make it up to you though when his life calms down.
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