i have been with my gf for bout 2 months now and its going great!we really like each other and have both been really happy.im besotted with her thats partly my prob!we're both going on holiday and will b apart for bout 2 weeks - i cant stop thinking about her even when i have just seen her, let alone when im not gonna see her for 2 weeks.i guess wot im worried bout is that the time apart might change things between us. I was just wondering if any of u guys out there have been in a similar situation.did things change at all?am i just being paranoid?
Hi there! Yes, I was in EXACTLY the same situation in late 1997. I had been dating my then-girlfriend for just over two months, and she left for a 2-week vacation with her parents.
I had the exact same fears you did, I thought that she would meet someone else, or would come home and not feel the same way about me. In fact, she had the same worries about me as I had about her...and she came home liking me more than ever. So it all worked out positively, and we ended up being together for 3 and a half years after that. So don't worry about it too much, I'm bettin' everything will be just peachy. Take care and best of luck!
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Yep, it's generally been my experience that we miss oneanother equally and have the same fears.
As cheesy as this may sound, since I was usually the one going away, and since it was usually to a place I wasn't interested in going, I often spent a lot of my time writing letters to my SO while there. Long letters about what I was doing and how I felt. I think that I only ever once sent one of them--by the time I got home I usually didn't need to. I do that a lot, really--if I am sad, sometimes the best thing to calm and center me is just to write a letter to my SO telling what's going on in my head and how much I appreciate my relationship right now.
I used to get the same way (and i still do). I would get worried that something would happen that my b/f would come back not feeling the same way for me, or that he had met someone else. In my mind i would make up the worse case scenario and worried myself to death about it. I was (and still am) very paranoid.
I know that time apart isn't very fun, but hey think of it like this....you'll be soooooooo excited when she comes back, think about how happy you'll be. Time apart can actually be kinda good for a relationship.
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