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Pixie69
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What's a person to do when you run out of things to say to that special someone? It's summertime...so nothing to interesting happens during the day for me to talk about. And I know this person really well already, so it's not like I have anything to ask him.

What do you do when you run out of things to talk about?

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Brittany
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Lin
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Well sweeto, I might be being naive here but I think communication is more than just telling someone about what happened, what you did and asking them what they did.

I used to have that problem with my ex bf. We couldn't communicate. If nothing interesting happened, we would literally have nothing to talk about. And that was the reason we eventually split up. Because we simply couldn't communicate on a higher level.

I think you have to ask yourself why you have nothing to talk about. Are you afraid to delve into something deeper? Is one party just not interested in communicating or are the two of you simply on different wavelengths?


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Oh my boyfriend and I had this problem a few months ago. School had just gotten out and all the sudden all we had to talk about was his job as a cashier at a grocerey store. It doesn't change that much. But then we just started talking on a different level. One day I just let all my concerns about next year (he's going into collage and I still have 2 years of high school left) and after I let all that out, it's like we never ran out of stuff to talk about. It's like I broke a barrier of some sort.

I dunno it's just a thought,

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Etch
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Why do people always feel they have to talk? I am sure that you two are comfortable in silence...

Perhaps if that upper level that Lin and magpie were talking about doesnt show up you will have to find something to talk about. Go and do something for pete's sake. Go hiking, play some sport together, watch a movie. Good conversations always come to me when i am hiking.


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Pixie69
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We're comfortable in silence, but....not on the phone. And when we're in person we do talk on that upper level, it seems like it's just easier to express ourselves in person.

However, my parents are....not very cool with me right now. So far this summer (outside of cross country and youth group) I manage to leave the house without my parents about once every two weeks. You'd think I was the satan incarnate....

::walks away muttering "emancipation is only seven months away"::

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Eppy
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The only way I can talk to my bf right now is on the phone... either that or ICQ. Cause he's so far away. (I can't wait til fall!!)

We sometimes have silences. But I usually just ask him about his day, and tell him about mine. I know I'm going to talk to him on the phone that day, so if something happens, I'll make a mental note to mention it to him. And once we get talking, you can't shut us up! Exhaustion is the main reason we hang up. If nothing in particular happens, then we talk about whatver is on our mind. If something is bothering me, I'll tell him. If I'm thinking about the future, I'll tell him that. If I had a dream, I'll tell him that. I tell him how I'm feeling.

My suggestion is the next time you talk to him, and you run out of things to say, say, "Why does this happen?" Tell him you're worried or bothered by it, and talk about that. Then he'll be aware of it, he'll know how you feel about it, you'll know how he feels, and you can fix it. Ah, communication is a wonderful thing. I hope this tidbit helps, and I hope things work out for you.


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star1120
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well, what if he's just not a phone talker? that happens. ryan and i can talk about whatever for who knows how long when we're with each other, or we just enjoy eachothers presence (sp?) in silence...or...with the radio... but we're totally comfortable...but never totally quiet. but, on the phone, it's just tough to talk to him. so maybe that's what's up with your boy, he's just not big on talking on the phone. it's a possibility

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because my boyfriend and i are geeks, we read newspapers a lot. we'll read the Wall Street Journal at the table and then start commenting. oh, we've had some great discussions, then had some that got us nothin' but the silent treatment but anyway, talk about the news or something if you are seriously lacking. if you have that much time of your hands, there are plenty of newspapers online, or at newsstands all over the place. and it's a good way of getting to know the world around you. who says teenagers don't care about what's going on?!?

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Etch, my boyfriend would agree with you.. I tend to be that type of person that feels that have to go insanely deep and/or talk all the time.. I need to just chill out and enjoy the silence..

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