Here's the situation. Me and my ex broke up almost two months ago. And in that time, we only started talking again about two weeks ago. One of the nights that we were talking online, he mentions that he never stopped liking me ever since we broke up. The thing is he never acted like he did have any interest in me anymore but anyways....We deceied that we would hang out over the week. So yea we did and stuff happend. Now my question is, Is it alright that me and my ex are seeing each other like this? Or is it too much because of the emtional attachment from the past?
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No one here can tell you how you feel. They're your feelings, no one elses.
As for me personally ... I don't give second changes in a relationship. I admit i do have trust issues, but that came from bad breakups, and after a bad breakup, i'm not willing to make the same mistake w/ the same person (it's happened more than once w/ other people, obviously). I know myself and i know that i wouldn't be able to handle getting hurt by the same person.
There are no guarantees in any relationship. But b/c this guy is your ex, it sort of puts more emphasis (sp?) on the past. Just be careful and set limits. It's really ok to just be friends ... w/ benefits too, if that's what you want.
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Are you comfortable seeing him like that? Are you comfortable doing "stuff" as you put it even though you aren't oficially together?
Think about it. We aren't here to tell you if it is alright or not. That is your job hon. You have to ask yourself how comfortable you feel being around him in such a manner and if you feel that it is "wrong" or you are uncomfortable, you have every right to tell him that you just want to stay friends.
When you see someone who was a very big part from your past, there is definitely a large amount of emotional attachment and familarity. Which could explain why you got involved in such a way after meeting up.
As for whether all this is okay, it is a question only you can answer my dear.
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