Mario and I have been together for two hole years now and we have something sooo great. I love him so much and he loves me very much too. We have been getting along really well lately and he seems like he wants to be with me for a long time. He even talks about far into the future together. Mario and I made love for the very first time about two weeks ago. It was my first time haveing sex, but wasn't his. Well just the other day Mario felt that he should tell me something that he has kept hidden inside himself for about a year 1/2 or two years. He told me that when we first started going out that he cheated on me(he had sex with another girl). He said that back then I was just another girlfriend to him and that he didn't love me like the way he loves me now. He said that he wished he wouldn't have done it and that he is very sorry. He told me that it would never happen again. I truely and deeply believe him. We both think that we shouldn't let this hurt us, because we have come so far and that we love each other with all of our heart. I just want to see what you would have done if you were in my place? Would you leave something wonderful and specail to you behind or would you stay and work it all out and be with the man you truely love. Samantha Age:17
Posts: 6 | From: Joplin, Mo , America | Registered: Jun 2001
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Well, different people would do different things. But personally, I think it's better to work things out if you're really in love. If I were in your situation, I would try and forgive him this time, but if he ever cheated and lied to me again, I'd have to really wonder... Everyone makes mistakes, and mercy is a noble thing. But learning from your mistakes is pretty important too.
Posts: 582 | From: Montreal, Quebec, Canada | Registered: Aug 2000
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I think that I agree with Rizzo here. It was a while ago now, and he seems to have proved himself to you. I think that he is very LUCKY that he is in this situation and that he can probably still stay with you despite what he did... so I would be most concerned that he realize how lucky he is that something worse is not happening, and make SURE you know he will not do this again. And certainly, if he were to do it again, well, I would be out of there very quickly.
I'm not so sure I like the idea of "just another girlfriend," but... ah well. He seems to have realized how wrong that kind of thinking is.
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