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miss bitch
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Almost every boy i've been out with has treated me badly or used me, but I went out with this guy a few weeks ago and he treated me so well and i just couldn't really like him, then i stopped liking him altogether. Then i went out with this boy that i really liked and he used me and im left feeling like **** . I dunno if this might have anything to do with it, but about 7 months ago my boyfriend who i really loved and was my first time broke up with me and it's been since then?


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To me, it seems like you don't really know what you're looking for in a relationship or relationship partner yet. And considering you broke up with someone you cared for very much several months ago, tells me that you might still need time to heal from the pain before getting involved with someone else.

I think after any relationship ends, you need some YOU time. Just take time to get to know you, and don't get involved with anyone during that time. I think that's what you should do now. Don't get involved with anyone until you're more sure of what you want, and who you want. Okay?

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Gumdrop Girl
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what is it that you are actually attracted to? could just be a horrible coincidence that the blokes you've fancied have been dirtbags.

do you like "bad boys?" if so, then there are plenty of guys who may seem "naughty" or "rebellious" or simply something "different" who won't treat you badly. maybe you'd fancy the hippies, or the artists, poets, or rockers and skaters. there's plenty of guys who fall into these categories, yet have the sense not to manipulate people.

i suppose this is a no brainer, but there's no magic advice that we could give you that'll just make you go *poof* and like the nice guys. that's your call to make.

the sea is wide and the fish are plentiful. and if you want to keep yourself from being "used," then just stop doing whatever it is that constitutes "use" until you are sure of what you are getting yourself into.

i use angst

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