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Camzie13
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Hey guyz wat up? Anyway, I have a super mondo prob...here goes.
there are 2 guyz in my life, brian and will. im not goin out with either, but they are potentials. Brian is a sweetie and i know he thinks im cute, hot, whatever, and he is supernice. ON the other hand, will is the bad boy kinda guy, and he "claims" that he wants me, but 2 dayz ago, he called me a ho and said to leave him alone. Hes really hot, and i don't wanna try to go out with both. Also, brian just got out of a relationship, so he might not be prepped for one yet, and im really confused on which guy to pick...etc.
thanks for the help
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Lin
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Any guy who calls you names unfairly and blows hot and cold with you is obviously not worth your time.

I think you should just get to know Brian better and take things slow seeing how he just got out of a relationship. If anything comes out of your friendship, good. If not, hey you've got yourslef a good friend.

Really hon, Will sounds like a real waste of time.


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I agree. Brian all the way. You wouldnt want a boyfriend that is verbally abusive, would you?

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Country Girl
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I second what Lin said. Name-calling when you aren't even in a relationship with him is a big red flag for me. Brian sounds like a real potential but definitely take your time with him... breaking up is hard to do.

Good Luck

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I agree w/ everyone else and pick Brian. He sounds like the better pick. If the other guy called you a hoe and told him to leave you alone, is that someone who you want to be in a relationship with? Pick Brian, he definitly sounds like he has more potential then the other guy. He sounds like boyfriend material and you definitly don't want a guy who is going to treat you bad.

[This message has been edited by golden101 (edited 05-28-2001).]


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One thing that I noticed is that you said Brian just got out of a relationship. That would be a little red-flag right there. People are all different, but I think it would be wise to take things pretty slowly for a little while with him. Sometimes it takes us a little bit of time to work out failed relationship issues in our minds before we can move on to another partner. And the last thing you want or need in a budding relationship is excess baggage from a previous one.

And now that I'm thinking about it...I don't think Ive ever had to "choose" between two or more potential girlfriends in my entire life! I guess I'm just not the handsome stud that some of my friends are. LOL

[This message has been edited by BruinDan (edited 09-26-2002).]


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Personally, I'd say go for Brian, but take it slow. He just got out of a relationship, so give him some time. Will, on the other hand, sounds a little bizarre. Why would a guy that's "into you" call you names and tell you to go away? Sounds a little strange to me. He could become verbally abusive. Anyway, go for Brian, but be careful not to rush things. Good luck!

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OMG!!!! I had the best day today! (regardin Brian) A bunch of my friends and I played football, brian was there, and then we went back to kevins and brian had his arm wrapped round me the WHOLE TIME!!!! then we went to dinner, footsies! and then went back to brian's house and played on his trampoline and it was GREAT!!! just had to say that.
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Brian all the way! I know sometimes it's "fun" to try and get the guy who plays hard to get, but any potential partner who calls you names or treats you badly (ie. isolates you from friends, dictates parts of your life like the way you dress) is NO good at all.

Good for you that Brian shows more and more signs of being enamored with you. Just take it slow and see what develops.

Good luck!


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ugh... that reminds me of my ex.... he was such a nut and he kept on calling me all sorts of wierdo names. now i do not like that at all. anyway, if you think that Brian is not prepped up for another gal... be patient with him. he needs sometime to cool off and start again. after all you're lucky that he kinda likes ya

my ex was a guy like that Will and i totally would want to stay away from him. on the other hand... Brian seems of a gentleman! if you really care for him tell him that... it wouldn't hurt...

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OMG!!! I have a major prob!!! THis is makin me sad . See, brian used to like, and still kinda likes this girl named angela, but he said that he likes me LOTS more. Angela REALLY REALLY REALLY likes brian, but he doesn't feel the same way, and i am worried that if i pursue brian the way things are goin, then...angela will hate me. Im not that good of friends, but i really hate hurting other peeps. What should I do??? thanx
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