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This girl (just a friend, not a girlfriend) seems to be using me to ask other people questions about her....like, I'll be talking to her on the phone, and she'll call some guy up on 3-way calling and tell me to ask him if he likes her (she remains silent so she can hear what they say but they don't know she's listening) and things like that. I objected and tried to get out of doing things like that... I know no one can take advantage of you unless you let them... but she just kind of forces me to do some of these things.
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How does she force you to do these things? Next time, take a stance and say no. Don't worry that you'll hurt her feelings or that she'll be upset with you. Simply tell her no. You're her friend, not her little info collector. If she wants to know if someone likes her, she should find a less deceptive way to do it. If I were you, I'd stop calling these people right now. It'll be one big mess when people find out about this sneaky little game she's playing, with you as her partner.
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I completely agree with what's already been said.
Also, having a phone conversation with someone else while she listens in and the other person doesn't know she's listening isn't a very cool thing at all. That isn't being honest or fair to that other person, and I'd be seriously pissed if someone did that to me.
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If she is *forcing* you to do these things then i think she probably is using you. Do what Slowcookie said and next time she asks you to do that say no. When she asks you to do these things just tell her that you don't want to or just tell her you have to go.
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Until she starts having sex with you and tells you that she won't date you, you aren't being used. Posts: 3 | From: indialantic, FL, USA | Registered: May 2001
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Whoa tomiv. While you might have had a bad experience with regards to 'being used'. PLease do not take it upon yourself to belittle our other posters.
There is no actual definition of what being used is. If a so called friend is only my friend because he wants money from me, I would feel used. Sex does not have to come into the picture at all.
So please be respectful of your fellow posters. Something you agreed to upon registering at Scarleteen.
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I kinda think it would be hard for any one of us to tell you whether or not you're being used. Lets put it this way. Does she ONLY call you to get you to call these people and ask them questions for you or do you guys hang out like other normal friends do? Or does she only call you when she wants you to do something for her? I know that I have good friends who might ask me to sometimes do stuff like that for them and they're not using me. So it's pretty much up to you, if she ONLY calls you to do stuff for her then yes, sounds like she probably is using you. However, if you guys talk normally and hang out and go out together and she doesn't only talk about these people or these subjects then I don't think I would call that using you..... But it's up to you, that's only my opinion!
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