How about asking him out for a cup of coffee or a movie? Go on a nice casual date and see how everything goes.
ALternatively, just drop him an email or a note telling him that you like him for whatever reasons you might have and just see how he reacts. It's a nerve wrecking experience, I know. But I think your best bet would be approaching him in a casual and friendly manner.
quote:Originally posted by sinful2001: i really have liked this boy for a long time,but im too afraid to tell him that. how can i approach him and give him a clue that i like him but not ask outright in case he shuts me down??
check out your quote..."if u want it, get it" i bet u can do just that!
Ok, I know this sounds immature and silly, but it works.
If you know his email, and he knows yours, go to http://www.thespark.com . They have this "Virtual Cupid" thing (it might be called Pimpin' Cupid, I forget). All you do is put in your crush's email, and it will send an ANONYMOUS email to him saying that someone he knows likes him. Then he gets the option of, if he can think of anyone he has a crush on, to put in their email. If he puts in yours, the service will send a notice to the both of you saying that you both have a crush on eachother. Happiness ensues.
------------------ ...an angel who didn't so much fall as saunter vaguely downwards...
"Ni! Ni! Niii!" -Monty Python & the Holy Grail
"Ennui is insufficient reason to commit suicide." -Neil Gaiman
okay, this is me... i met a cool guy and was interested right away... i, being tired of waiting for guys to ask me out or approach me, decided to call him up and ask him out on a date. it's as easy as that... all i said was "...i was wondering if you'd like to do something sometime..." and then we went out 3 days later. and with one date, came another.. and another... and there ya go. it's not as hard as it seems. take it from a success story! if he's not interested, he'd most likely turn you down nicely... and not rude and making it a big rejection deal... don't worry too much and think of what if he says yes. then you'll go out and hopefully have a great time... good luck! *sam*
------------------ " Life move pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." - Ferris Bueller
You should definitely say SOMETHING. Trust me. I made a really stupid mistake earlier this year.
See, I really liked this guy, but I didn't see how he would ever like me. I'd never liked a guy like him before (I usually go for the more "punk rock" type guys, while this one was a surfer and kind of preppy) and likewise I assumed he'd never liked a girl like me (he seemed like the type of guy to go for preppy, "popular" girls). So I didn't tell him. I became pretty good friends with him; we had to do two projects together at school and through that we got to know eachother really well. It even got to the point that it seemed like he would look around for me to go talk to me. But he never showed any signs that he liked me. So I kept quiet.
Eventually, I got bored of the whole situation, and after a while of rejecting other guys with the hopes that he would like me, I finally took up one guy's offer and went on a few dates with him. He was nice, but I didn't like him as much as the other guy, so after a while I broke it off. During the time I went out with this other guy, I stopped talking to the original guy cuz I figured that way I could forget about him. Of course, that didn't work.
After a while we started talking again. Soon we became better friends than we'd been earlier in the year, before the guy I went out with, and we even started hanging out outside of school for fun for the first time (we'd worked on the projects out of school, but never by choice). Then, one night while I was running around my town late at night with him and his best friend, he told me that he liked somebody but wouldn't tell me who. At the end of the night I learned that it was me. He asked me out, I said yes, and we've been going out for a month and a half now. And it's great
One thing he told me, was that he'd liked me since he met me in the beginning of the year, for as long as I'd liked him, but he was too scared to do anything about it. I couldn't believe it because that was exactly how I felt. How much less pain would I have gone through if I'd told him when I first started liking him? Tons. It would have saved me a lot of lonely school-nights, that's for sure Even though I'm glad we didn't go out before, because now we know eachother a lot better, it still was a big mistake. Don't make it! Tell the guy you like him. Don't do what I did. Be brave and he'll respect you. And who knows? Maybe if he doesn't like you already, if you tell him how you feel he'll start noticing you, too. It can't hurt
good luck!! love, -Alex
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