Hi I'm Jenny. A while ago I posted a message about me having boyfriend troubles. I was kinda in love wiv Joe, who was best friends with Tom, but things werent going too well with Joe and I kinda fancied Tom. Well Joe and me have broken up since then, but me and Tom aren't going out. I fancy him a lot, and hes told me he feels the same, BUT theres more to it.
A while ago, Tom had a little thing with Katie, one of my best friends (this was before i fell for Tom). They met up in town after school, nothing happened, then they met up the next day and she told me they got off with each other and he fingered her. She sed she really really liked him and really enjoyed it. I know its true because Tom hasnt denied it and even told me about it. Well anyway, Tom didnt take it any further, he said that they would be better as friends, it wasnt going to work. In my opinion, I just dont think he fancied her. Anyway, that was a month or 2 ago.
Last night (Friday), there was a disco. Tom came up to me, we talked for a while and after a while we got off with each other. I really enjoyed it, he was great. And he was really nice about the whole thing, hes really nice about everything and I really like him. But then he asked me out and it took me a while 2 give my answer, I could see he was kinda gettin a bit worried and anxious. Well I said yeah and we hugged and then both went back to our friends for a while. But about 5 mins later, I went up2 him again and I told him that it wouldnt be a good idea and that we should just stay friends for now. I think he was a bit upset about this but obviously hiding it.
So all that happened last nite. Then just recently, we were talking on MSN Messenger as we often do. We were talking about the whole thing, and I could tell that Tom was gettin really really annoyed and upset about the whole thing. But I gave him my reasons for not goin out wiv him:
1- My friend Katie still has HUGE crush on him AND shes told me that she gets REALLY depressed and does this self harm thing, which is not good and goin out wiv Tom wouldnt make it any better.
2- Iv just broken up with his best friend Joe.
3- It probably ruin the friendship. He had excuses for all of these and I saw his points.
I'm findin this really hard. I really really fancy Tom, hes good looking, sweet, hes clever, funny, lovely to talk to you etc. And hes told me that he really likes me and would definitely go out with me. Hes perfect, I'd love to go out with him. But there's those 3 big reasons standin in the way! I know that you're all going to say the same thing- Do what YOU think is right! But I don't know what to do!!!!!! I'm soooooooo confused, what do I do? Do I not go out wiv Tom and risk losing a really good friendship with him?(i get the feelin he doesnt want 2 talk 2 me much more) Or do I go out wiv him and risk losin a good friend (katie), and eventually losing the friendship? (wen we eventually break up)
PLEASE HELP ME! I'm struggling to concentrate on other things, this is taking over my life and I need to sort it out!!!
Thank you for readin my incredibly long story!!!!!!!!
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