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KittenGoddess
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*gasp* Ever have one of those moments where you realize that no matter how many times you've said "I am not going to be like my mother (or father) about ____" that you're actually doing it anyway? I was thinking about this when I was reading one of the other threads, and thus I wondered...

We know that many of our views and habits are formed by being around our parents. Do you see parallels between your parents and yourself, and within your relationships with other people? Have you chosen a partner who is similar to one of your parents?

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Celtic Daisy
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I'm not really with someone who is like my parents, but i know i'm like my parents. I don't mind being like my mom because i think my mom's has a lotta good stuff about her.

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BruinDan
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Ohh yeah...there are some days when I'll say or do something and then I'll freeze. "Good heavens...I'm turning into my mother...aaaaaggghhh!!!"

I think as we all grow up, that will become more and more evident...and it's probably not a horrible thing. As long as I don't adopt any of the horrible habits my mother had (like swearing at people in traffic), I suppose I'll be okay.

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KittenGoddess
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Personally, I see alot of my mother in myself. We are alot alike. And it scared me the other day when I realized that my boyfriend is alot like my dad.

Example: We were on the interstate, and I was driving and he was looking at the map trying to tell me where I should be going. And I had to make a decision about which way to go...so he's trying to decide, and I'm like "Make up your mind!"....and then I thought, 'Oh God, we are my parents!' That was rather scary.

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Siren
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It's so funny that you brought this up cause I have been thinking about this very issue!

I know I am nothing like my mom. Even though I do love her because she's my mom and we have moments where we get along, she is my complete opposite. I always say that if we weren't related I wouldn't pick her as a friend. No offense to her, but we're really that different!

And recently I've realized that a lot of the guys I date remind me of my dad, either in their looks, mannerisms, attitude, ideas, etc. I'm sure it's not a bad thing, since I've dated a lot of great guys recently.

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Since this is relationships, I feel that the way I handle my relationships is exactly the same as how my mother handles her relationship with my dad.

We are both tolerant to a certain extent and after that we just freak out. We are fairly short tempered, can be childish and demanding at times yet understanding.

I think when you are brought up with only your mum to provide the female figure in your life, it is natural to feel that what she does is what a woman should do.

And this theory has proven very true with all of my friends. The way my mum treats her friends is also identical to the way I treat mine. I'm like her twin.


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Gumdrop Girl
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I *am* my mother. I look like her (if she gained 40 pounds). We're both awful -- or mediocre at best -- cooks. We're pragmatic. I'm not as stoic as my mom, though. We're both very business-minded. She treats my father with a contented sort of compliance; I treat my boyfriend the same way. We don't nit pick the details, we just go along with things unless it's a really ugly problem.

as it were, i've finally reached the age where i realize my mom is right. always.

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oh gosh...i just told myself yesterday that i was acting like my mom.

i understand what you're saying siren, about being the oPPosite of your mom. my mom and i are like that tOO. and i'm not sure if i reaLLy do waNNa be like my mom. maybe i'm saying this b/c things haven't bEEn gOOd at aLL betwEEn us for a very long time. but even before i brought our bad relationship upon myself, i didnt waNNa be like her. but...turns out i have one trait of hers. my bf and i were fighting, and i could not make a decision. i was incredibly wishy-washy about it. just like mom! and i absolutely hated that moment. i do care about her i gueSS, dont get me wrong. i just wouldnt waNNa be like her. and i can control that cant i?

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