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ningrrl
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Help!
It's like I worry so much about me and my boyfriend's relationship, how it's going, and how I feel, that I can't relax and enjoy the beautiful relationship we have... Any tips on how I can settle down and just be happy about it?

P.S. If you read my post in Support Groups, you'll see that I am a worry wart!

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LilBlueSmurf
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My solution?

Be honest. If you're having and kind of doubts, tell him. He'll either confirm them or tell you you're just being silly. Either way, it's better that he knows.

Having an open, honest relationship has it's perks. If he senses a problem, he'll let you know as well. It's only fair.


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ningrrl
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Trust me, I *do* let him know... I always have. It's like when things are just perfect, I seem to TRY to find something to worry about, you know? He tells me it's silly and sometimes gets aggravated, and I know it is silly... I'm just a worry wart. :P And it's SO annoying.

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daisygirl
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wow... i feel the same way! its like i'm always seeing little things and making them to be these huge problems... even though our relationship is great! i talk to my boyfriend about it as well... and he talks me through everything and just reminds me that we do have an awesome relationship and that we love each other... just remembering that helps out way lots. hope that helps.

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CoeurDoux
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I know exactly what you mean. I have a great relationship and all I can do is whine about stupid things. And then I worry that he will get tired of my whining.
All I can say is just feel good about what you have! That's what I keep reminding myself.
Appreciate it while you have it, cuz if it ends you'll feel pretty bad about not embracing it.

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ningrrl
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Yeah, and it's like so weird that you need him to reassure you of how great your relationship is, isn't it? But it feels good to hear someone else saying it. We all need to just kick back and enjoy!
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true that
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I tend to get like that too sometimes. My best advice is just keep talking to him about it like you've been doing. Discuss your relationship with him on a daily basis if you have to. And if you ever get really worked up and worried about something....take a deep breath, make yourself some tea, and sit down and relax and remind yourself that everything will be okay.

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Lin
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I am the same way too. And the only way I try to get some control on myself is by reminding myself of the positive things in the relationship.

When you start to know your bf even better, you start to understand why he does the things he do and that really helps.

So continue to communicate with him and keep up the open and honest relationship. Plus always think positive sweetie.


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