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Ok, I've had many boyfriends in my country-Bulgaria, but now I'm in the U.S.
There's this guy that I like and he likes me! Well, that kinda suprised me, cuz it always happened that I don't like who i'm going out with, or he doesn't really like me. So, this kinda shoked me (a happy shock) But I'm soo scared!! What do you guys do here when you go out with someone? It's really different in my country-we never go to the movies, we just hang out. I have an accent when I speak English, so whenever I go to the moves with my girlfriends, I never buy popcorn, cuz I don't even know how!!! Most of you will probably laugh at me, maybe I am stupid , I don't know. Anyways, I'm sooo scred to be in a relationship!! I don't know what to do!!!!!!! I don't even know what to wear on a first date. And I'll be scared to be alone with that boy. I can't think of anything to say, and look like a fool.I'm so nervous when I'm near him, it's actually annoying. Please help me!!! Are there any other people who feel the same things, or am I weird?????
PLS help!!!!!!!!

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You know honey, chances are boys in the United States aren't all that different from boys in Bulgaria.

If you are really nervous, just take things slow and just be friends and get to know each other better until you get more comfortable being around him.

And as for the culture shock, it's natural but it will pass. How about getting some new found friends to tell you about ordering popcorn and even what they do on dates.

I am sure they will understand your questions, however silly they may seem to you.

And really, if you are scared about being in a relationship., don't. Go into one only when you are ready.

You are absolutely normal. Don't worry about that. Just take things slow and they will work themselves out. Gd luck sweetie.

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Thanks Lin!!!!! I will take things slow-I thought I would be nervous talking with my crush on the phone, but I wasn't. I guess it's just in my mind. But thanks!!!
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I think Lin answered all your questions but I just thought I'd add.

I don't think you're weird for feeling the way you do at all! This boy obviously likes you and I don't think you have to worry too much about looking foolish in front of him. Just relax and remember to enjoy yourself, it could turn into something great. Talk to your friends about what to wear on a date and what to do. And ask the boy what he'd like to do, where he'd like to go. Tell him you're from another country so you're not farmiliar with a lot of things. It might give him a good opportunity to show you around and introduce you to a new country.

And as for being in a new country, you will adjust. Just give yourself some time. And if you're buying popcorn or anything for that matter, feel free to ask for help. They won't bite you and won't think you're stupid! You're in a new place, it's okay, and most people will understand and help you out. Good luck with everything!

}{*Starry Ali*}{
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Aww, don't worry abouit it. I'm sure guys are about the same in most countries. Most couples just hang out sometimes but they do also like to go to the movies and stuff. It depends on the kinds of things your boyfriend likes to do.

If I were you I wouldn't worry about your accent if you do go out to the movies. Most people won't laugh at you. In fact, the people at my school think foreign accents are cool and even sexy. If you go on a date ask your friends for advice on clothing. They can help you pick out the best outfit for the occasion.

And when you're around you boyfriend act casual, as if he's just one of the girls. Don't be afraid- most guys are pretty easy going and polite, so just act like yourself. If he does something that makes you uncomfortable just tell him to stop or ask him to take you home. Hope that helps a little.

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Honey, don't worry.

You know that this guy already likes you. And that means he likes you for who you are. I know that when it comes to love or dating and everyone gets nervous and wants to do everything just right. This is completely normal.

There is no one right outfit to wear out on a first date. Wear something that you like that makes you feel comfortable. If you really want advice, ask what your friends think.

Moving to a new country is a huge adjustment and no one is going to think you're stupid because you don't know everything. You're adapting and that's completely normal. If you're ever confused, just ask someone. They'll be glad to help.

Don't worry! Just go on your date and enjoy yourself! Have a wonderful time!

Smile, though your heart is breaking....

My crazy little universe....

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Thanks for all your advise guys, it was very useful. But there's something else I'm worried about. A lot of people like him. And because he likes me, they all go up to him and tell him that I'm stuck up, ugly, and all sorts of mean stuff. I know that he likes me, and he knows who I really am, but I'm afraid he'll start believing them. And all the jealous girls are always getting smart with me. I just ignore them, cuz I don't care what they think, but they might affect my b/f cuz some of them are really close friends with him. They always do that to everybody, but it's kinda bothering me. Can you suggest what I should do????? I don't wanna talk to him about it though, cuz he might think that all those stuff his friends are saying about me are true.
Thank you all so much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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