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Mack
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A while back I told this girl i knew I liked her. We used to do things with a group of my friends(which all we really do is go bowling on friday)
Last Monday she called me as asked me if i wanted to do something on the weekend(this after me asking her serveral times in email). I said i was cool with it. Well Friday came I emailed her asking if she still wanted to do something give me a call(i never got her number yet). I was waiting for her to call when my friend Jason call and asked if I wanted to go bowling. I found out through him this other guy was going to the movies with Sally(the girl I like) So i said I told Jason i'd go bowling with him. A few minutes later Sally calls and we talk for a bit. She asked why I didnt want to go to the movies(She thought it would have been a group thing). I said I was going bowling to Keep Jason company(which I didnt want to go because she never said a word to me and I find out from someone else) well to make a long story short, I end up going bowling with Jason and Paul while Sally stayed home(the guy Sally was to go to the movies with) because someone(I'm not sure if it was Paul or Sally) didnot want to go to the moives after all.
What is up with this girl? I feel bad now because she didnt do anything friday night while I did(Should I feel bad?).

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lilnerd
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Sounds like a bit of miscommunication. Why don't you ask for her number and give her a call one day so that you two can make plans? (As opposed to hearing what she's doing through someone else)

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Lin
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lilnerd is right hon. Sounds like a misunderstanding.

Just give her a call and explain what happened and would she like to go for a movie this Sat.


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wow! that was a really confusing story. Don't take anything personally, she was probably just as confused as I was while reading the story, and if she's a super awesome person, she'll be over it in no time. If you really like her, i suggest going one on one with her without the group...great move asking her to something by herself though, shows you've got initiative and girls believe it or not like that. Otherwise give it some time and cut all these extra people out of the picture and go for the gold kid!

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Mack
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Sorry for being a bit confusing. I could have writen more detail but you'd still be reading it(I cant stand reading long posts and i ignore most of them)
I've been trying to get ahold of her throught email(I dont have her phone number yet and I dont feel like asking her sister who i'm friends with) but she has not replied yet. Either she's ignoring me or just doesnt go on the net as much.
I'm just starting to give up on her. I know college can be demanding(I'll start next year) but she's been on brake last week I only talked to her twice, once on monday and once friday after I already made my plans. I told her I like her a few weeks ago, I've only been out with her once and that was with a group. It's like she's avoiding me or something.
Like they say there are more fish in the sea unfortuneitly I'm in El Nino waters right now.

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Lin
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Just call her Mack. After all, email isn't exactly a very personal form of communication.

Get her number and call her if you really like her. No harm right?

But if you want to look for your other fish, you are free to do so as well.


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mack, you know... the easiest thing is to talk. If she doesn't reply even if you know she's free then that tells you a few things
1.) she's ignoring you
2.) doesn't check her email often
3.) not interested in you.

Look, from my experiences all I can say is you CAN'T EXPECT everything the way you want it to be. A girl may like you as a friend but if you wanted her to like you MORE than friend
you'd probably get answers like
1. " I don't know." ( when she's really saying. HELL NO! )
2. " I like you as a friend." ( when she's saying... only a friend and nothing more.)
3. " Hey let's go out and do something else." ( she's trying to change the subject and expect you to GET THE MESSAGE.)

I don't mean to rant at you but HONESTLY
when it comes to LIKING a woman ( which I have a lot )... and she shows you ONE TEENY LITTLE SIGN of ignorance or a bad remark to you... then that means LEAVE ! Don't go for her... LEAVE LEAVE AND LEAVE !

ARRGGHHH ! I can't stand how SOME women expect GUYS to understand them when it comes to MISCOMMINCATION. I mean some expect us to read their signals... their likes and dislikes... and whether or not they like you as more than a friend or want to date you.

BUT JEESH... You know how hard it is trying to uncover those things besides TALKING ?
YEAH... it takes a miracle.

So if you need to do the talking then let her do the talking too.

AND YES ... rejection is a BIG SIGN of giving up. But it's not the end of the world... you'll have to deal with more rejections as you progress in life.

antonio99


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Mack
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I've basicly giving up trying to get a hold of her. If she wants to talk she has my number.
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