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lylajane
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Ok, today my b/f that I oh so devoted myself to just called me young, inexperienced and said that I can't kiss,.. its a spanish song,.. he sung it to me,.. needless to say I was quite hurt. now, he is a little older and more experienced than I but he knows of my insecurities,.. what am I supposed to do? can some people give me a few tips,.. I want to surprise him when I see him this week,. thanks,..
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SlowCookie
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If you really want to surprise him, go tell him to go find a more mature, more experienced girlfriend that likes it when he exploits her insecurities. I think that'll a funny surprise.

I have no idea why I'm even responding because I don't have any positive advice to give you (as in how to please him). Don't go buy Hot Secrets to Kissing: Tips to Stop His Mean, Insensitive Comments. If you really want to solve "your" problems, talk to him. That's all I can say. I'd rather go for the funny surprise though.


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surferChicka
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if it were that simple...i'd say dump him. but seriously, i agrEE w/slowcOOkie on this.

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Lin
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quote:
find a more mature, more experienced girlfriend that likes it when he exploits her insecurities

Make that into a song and sing in in whatever language you want to. Sing it to him and see how he feels.

Hon, if he wants a freaking kissing machine ask him to go buy those kissing fishies.

You are more than that and tell him that if he wants to be with you, he better respect that.

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magpie
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I would agree with everyone else to leave him. If kissing is all that matters to him, why should you limit yourself that way? Find a guy who will see you as a whole person.
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Suprise him by telling him that's over and giving him a swift slap in the face.

If he hurts you over something as trivial as a kiss, then you can do so much better. You don't need to be insulted by a guy who only cares about how he feels.

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lylajane
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No, but I was wondering about a few better kissing tips,.. anyone got any??
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Lady Moonlight
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quote:
Originally posted by lylajane:
No, but I was wondering about a few better kissing tips,.. anyone got any??
*~*lylajane*~*

Only the same answer we give to any questions like that.

Everybody is different. People like different things. Some other guy might love the way you kiss and think that your current boyfriend is totally wrong in his opinion. I have kissed folks with whom I am "kissing compatible" and folks with whom I am not. It just depends on the individuals involved.

That said, if you think this guy is worth it (and from your brief description, is he?) the two of you can learn to kiss better with each other. This takes communication, though, and it sounds like maybe you two aren't doing so well on that score if he's putting you down and you're feeling insecure. Anyhow, getting more compatible takes a combination of talking about what you each like in kissing and (the fun part) *practice*. Pay attention to what he likes and what he does. Don't forget, though, he needs to do the same for you. It's not a one-way street.

And if it doesn't work out, remember, there are other fish in the sea, and some of them are just your style of kissers!


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then sing this to him (to the tune of "That's Amore"):

i think you're a dork,
so go eat some pork
you're a poo-head

i am not fine
with all of the time
i had wasted

thinking you were so worthy
so please contract scurvy
i have hated

how you were so mean
and oh so obscene
i'm not immature

this guy is a real winner i even wrote a song for him. anyway, unfounded, deconstructive criticism isn't very nice to say the least. tell him to play fair or hit the road.

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Lin
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Oh dear Gumdrop. This post has driven you to extreme behaviour.

Hon, if you really insist on staying with a guy like that who hurts you for no other rason than the fact that you don't live up to his kissing standards then fine.

ASk him how he likes to be kissed. THat's the best advice anyone here can give you. COMUNICATION. That's the word you want.


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