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lilnerd
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Has anyone ever had to deal with liking someone who already had a partner? Well...that's what I'm going through and I'd really love to hear from someone, anyone, who can relate!! How did you face the person? It hurts so bad to see him with her... I just wanna forget about him already!

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CallMeBuffChick
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I sure have. It sucks. But what is worse is when you have a partner and someone is eyeing you and you're eyeing them back. That's the worse, esspecialy when they are good friends :\

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oh! constantly...isnt it the worst??

but honestly, it was in my best interest 2 just 4get it. who knows? somebody might be eying you anyway! u should give em a chance.

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Heather
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Lots and lotys and lots of times.

In my experience, the chances that you'll like someone who likes you when NEITHER of you has a partner can sometimes be very, very slim.

But truth be told, when I like someone, it has to do with liking them more than wanting them to be something particular to me. So, while it can be a bummer when there is a string attraction, it's a pretty minor bummer, and you can still be their friend. I mean, if you like them, you *like* them, no?

And you know, my husband and I did this dance for almost ten YEARS -- when we first met we both had partners, so we became very good friends. As the years went on, it never failed that when one of us was single, the other wasn't. Again, it's really okay. And what that DOES give you is the benefit of becoming very good friends with someone BEFORE you date them (if you ever do at all -- you may find your relationship is better as friends), which is what the best relationships (and the ones that last) are really based on.

So, don't despair. You may discover there's a really great friend hiding in that crush.

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I was kind of in your situation a little while back. I liked a guy who had a partner....and the guy was gay, too! I was totally hopeless .

But, I got over him, and moved on to someone unattached and who likes me back, too .

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i was head over heels for someone who was already dating someone else. so i waited for them to break up. and they did. and we went out. and it sucked. it was a complete and utter fiasco. and all that time i wasted pining for him, i could have been out there meeting new people.

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Ohhh, yes! I was with a guy who left me for someone else, sort of. Him and I weren't official but he meant the world to me and more, we shared a lot together, then she came along and boy was I crushed, devastated is more the word. And I was friends with him, he'd even flirt with me, which was only adding salt to the would because it was beyond obvious that he only wanted to be with her. And in being a friend it also means listening and hearing about all the happenings in his life and how wonderful his girlfriend was and how in love he was with her. I couldn't handle it, so I forgot him, stopped talking to him. I made the decision that I couldn't be friends with him because talking to him would make me so angry and depressed. It was break time from him so I could move on! So that's some advice I'd give you, if being friends with him is doing more bad than good....give the friendship a break.

Just so you know with my situation. After 10 months of not talking, we're talking again (coincidentally right before him and his girlfriend broke up). And I'm fine with being "just friends" and am not expecting anything more. Anyhow, good luck with your situation.

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lilnerd
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starry...i think taking your advice would be best for me right now. I can't be friends with someone that whenever I look at them I only want them more. Thanks everyone.

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RoxyCQChick
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I have...I do...last summer I met this guy, who is now one of my best friends, well, I hit on him and what not and I found out in a pretty embarrassing way... my best friends mom told our assitant/friend at work, who told my mom, who told me! I was so hurt! I cried the whole day..first and only time I've ever cried over a guy. I ended up telling my friend that I have feelings for him, but that I will not in any way try to break him and his gf up. Which is true, I'm not that type of person. One twist to my thingie here, is that my friend also likes me back...but we know where we stand. Plus now I'm dating someone and there's no way I'm two timing him. But anyway, it hurts to know the guy you like has a gf or is dating someone else. I've never met my friends gf and I don't want to..it would be too much for me to handle.
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Oh hun, all the time! I swear I've been in love with this one guy on and off for 3 years and he's had at least 3 girlfriends while I've liked him. It's just a natural womanly desire to have someone that another girl already has. I mean we all want the best for ourselves so when we see a guy with a girl, we know that there's something about that guy that makes her happy so you know you'll be happy with him too. Don't fret!

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Yuppers, I have...
And don't worry 'bout it, I can guarantee that things will be OK soon

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