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lilmo321
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Me and my b/f have a communication problem, i think it is me and it is really hurting our realationship how could i work on being more communative or open?
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Heather
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Open your mouth, sugar, and say what you mean.
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lilmo321
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i know that, but i get so shy when he talks about us or sexual stuff,ect.

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SlowCookie
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If you're shy with your boyfriend and can't talk to him, then why are you two together? What do you talk about? Do you talk at all? You should be able to talk to your partner. And if you two are sexually active, it is essential that you communicate. If you can't talk about sexual topics then you aren't ready to engage in any of it. Start talking.
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alaska
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(taking up Slow Cookies thought) And talk about it often. 'caus if Sex is just another topic between you and your partner, and not an "urgh-we're-both-really-embarrassed-now-thing" to chat about, it will all be a lot easier. Communicating about sex (especially safer sex and birth control) is really really important, dear.

So, I agree with what as all the others have said: Start talking, girl.

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LollipopPoRNchik
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You shouldn't be shy around your boyfriend. If he cares about you, you shouldn't worry about what you say. Say want you mean, like Miz S said. =) Just blurt things....Then it'll get easier... hehe

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$uMMeR
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why dont u just sit next to him at break or something and then say, "hi" and then "how was class" or "i tried 2 call yesterday" or sumthin like that....
if it doesnt work out, maybe u should just say it straight to him: "i dont think we're communicating as much as we should be" and tell him what u think.

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Lin
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Hon, he is your bf. You shouldn't be having problems talking to him about your relationship much less sex.

If you are going to do it, you have to talk about it. Otherwise when are you going to open your mouth?

No one is going to laugh at you dearie. And he better not. So just open your mouth and talk.

If it's really that difficult, try writing to him first and at least open the channels of communication. After that, try talking about stuff that doesn't embarrass you so much first.

When you are more comfortable, bring in the sex and stuff. But hon, remember, don't do anything unless you have talked about it. And by it, I mean protection, how far you are going to go etc.


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