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antonio99
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I have been meeting this girl in my english class for quite some time every week. Eventually, you can say we don't know each other much. It was more like going inside class and saying hello and smiling at each other and then talk a bit and then listening to the teacher lecturing on the subject.

I don't know if she's interested in me but she sure gives me those HI and SMILEs every time I walk pass her. She's very nice though.

My question is... how do I start the conversation ? What questions do I ask ? Should I keep on talking unless she's annoyed ? Or should I just talk to her randomly ?
What makes a girl feel comfy with a guy ? When he asks questions or when he introduces himself ?

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Man oh man why can't there be more men in the world like you? Oh well, back to the subject at hand. I think you should just ask her a question about school...say you see her with a book, "Who do you have for....?" or "tough class huh?" This could start a conversation a neutral territory....school. Always safe Good luck

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Discuss things about school and the class you're sitting in, that's a good place to start. Ask what her major is...basically just make polite low stress conversation. Ask her name and tell her yours, shake her hand (if that's possible) when you do that. Treat her the same way you would treat anyone new that you meet. And stop worrying about whether or not she "likes" you. How about trying to make a new friend instead of pick up a girl? Going at it like you're looking at her as your potential future wife usually isn't the way to go...just try to start a friendship. I can't tell you how nice it is when a guy is just there to enjoy your company and listen to what you have to say as opposed to trying to get you into his bed! So be polite, make a new friend...and don't hesitate to give her your phone number (you can say that if she ever wants to study or something to give you a call).

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Surfgal: You wished there were more men like me in this world ? What makes you say that. Anyways I appreicate the advice though. I really do. I'll try to spark up the conversation about school and everything.

And Kittengoddess: I'm not trying to get her into bed. But I see your point of view. Asides from that, I'll be my best and at my best in making a friend.

Thanks you two, somehow I wished I had more replies. Sorry for replying late though coz I have the fever. I'm really sick today.

I'm from Nashville though and I go to MTSU in Tennessee.

Peace
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I didn't mean to imply that you were trying to get into her bed...I'm just saying that it gets really old when a girl feels like every guy she meets is trying to pick her up. And therefore, coming across as trying to meet her as a friend would probably get a better response from her.

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I agree with what Kitten said. And to add, be careful about coming on too strong. Some people can be very intimidated by someone who immediately talks their ear off and wants to know everything about them. Be simple at first, yes, introduce yourself, it's always a good start! I always fine it comforting when someone is nice enough to say, "Oh, by the way I'm..so and so..And you are?" Then talk about school, your class, and usually conversations just flow from there. If you're interested in her just start off as acquaintances then see where it goes from there. Good luck!

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I really like it when a guy just comes up introduces himself and say hi.

I would say talking about school is a great way to start. Maybe you could get her number and call her on the pretence of asking about homework or where tomorow's class is.

If her eyes start glazing over and she starts staring at her watch every 5 secs, I say its a good time to stop talking. But if she smiles and replies you and she seems generally happy talking to you, I think you're fine.


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Talking about school is great. Mabey if you notice a change even somthing suttle (especail somthing most didn't notice) That you think she changed to try somthing new(A new hair cut, some specail touch like painted figer or toe nails) and you rfeeling brave piont it out as a complimant.
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well-to me most of my conversations with guys are usually started in class after an essay is returned and they would ask me..."what did you get?" and if our scores were average-but not excellent, we would just sit there and complain about how mean the teacher is. This way, you got a conversation started...now if she gets a better score than you did...you can ask "Whoa whoa whoah....you understand this stuf!?!" and then maybe you can spend lunch together with her explaining to you the concepts of Freud. It always works...well in my case. hehee..

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I just noticed you have alot of question in the boards

Anyway different girls love different things. I personally LOVE when guys kind of just say random things. you can't really plan a whole conversation. space between your conversation is just as good as space between your thoughts.

conversation starters? umm **blank** anything works for that, that's kind of like a trick question *lol*

introducing yourself can sweep a girl off her feet totally, unless she already knows you then she'll probly be a little weirded out

don't keep talking until she gets annoyed! jeez, i knoe once i get annoyed, it's hard to get un-annoyed. just ease off a little, i don't know that many girls that like guys to just bend down and kiss their heinis *hehe* i dont like guys being all lovey-dovey before anything is even put out there. it's just plain creepy.

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