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Hey everyone!

I just started dating someone, and he seem to be *perfect*. He showers me on compliments, hes not too expierenced, so he doesnt expect anything from me, and hes the mpst caring, loving, intellegent, and humorous person I have ever known. Although we've barely been together for a month, I truly love him (as far as I kno), and he constantly tells me he loves me. He means it, too, since he hasnt a reason to lie to me.

I am only a lowely high school freshman, tho. My friends constantly tell me that 'were too serious' and they 'dont want to see me hurt'. Ive spoken to him about it, and he promises me he would never hurt me (i kno things can change, but he is extremely sincere) i think ive found someone i can truly connect with, even tho im so young. what is your guys outlook on this? my side or my friends?


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go for it!!

your friends cannot prevent you froming being hurt. your young and, sad to say, most likely you will be hurt...NO MATTER WHAT. for now all you can do is go with your heart. what happens is what was meant to happen. you got something good there and don't give it up for the sake of being too young.


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Well, unless you're booking the caterer for the wedding reception, it doesn't sound like you're getting "too serious too soon."

It sounds like you're really fond of him, he's really fond of you, and that things are going well. I'd say enjoy that, work on getting to know each other better, and go from there.

The only caveat I would offer is to make sure that you don't let the new relationship energy keep you from keeping an open mind about the relationship. A relationship doesn't have to be flawless to be happy and working, but it does need to include communication, honesty, and trust. If you're not afraid to talk to each other and trust each other, I think you've got every chance of making each other happy for as long as you can.

And as for the future, who knows what it will bring? Think about your present for now, and let the future show itself.


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I'm in the exact same situation... EVERYONE has been telling me that we're too serious with eachother. It's been 4 months and 6 days now, and all 4 months have been GREAT. I really feel that I'm in love with him. I don't let anyone try to change my mind.

Just because your a freshman doesn't mean you can't be in love with someone. If your heart is truely telling your something, don't let your head take over with all the ideas that the people are you are putting in (even though it may be genuine concern).

I say, listen to your heart. If you feel that what your doing is right and your comfortable with it, go for it.

Oh, and the best of luck with everything!


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Heh. I am in the same little thing. I am a sophmore. My boyfriend is a freshman. In college. It's been exactly one month and 12 days. I love him to death. I can't stand seeing him sad, angry, or in pain. Unfortunatley, on Wednesday he broke his arm bad enough to require surgery. I just love waking up to that news on Thursday. He did it coming home from my house too. Just go with it. If he breaks your heart, your friends should be there to support you. Go with your heart. It will lead you, whether you like it or not.

Life is short, so let me play!

And play I shall...

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You know when I was in eighth grade I was going out with this wonderful guy who happened to be a sophmore. At first my friends encouraged it but after a week or so they started saying he was only after me for one thing (think sex, lol) and that he was a jerk and blah blah blah. So I listened to them and ended the relationship when I really should have. Just because I thought so low of myself I didn't think a guy could like me for just me.

Have a higher opinion of yourself, you're worth it and so is he.


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