I feel uncomfortable talking to my dad about it, well, cuz he's my dad. And I feel uncomfortable talking to my mom about it because she gets all sad and goes "I dont want you doing nasty things" and stuff... then asks stupid, insecure questions. I hate it.
Well, when I was growing up I never really got the "talk." All I got from my dad was....as we watched television....use a condom. Ok thanks, dad. LOL! It was kinda funny cuz at the time I was waiting for marriage. Then I met my love. I knew whether or not if we were going to be together forever, but I wanted him to be my first. I think my parents assume I'm having sex because we've been together for a 1 1/2 yrs. They just choose not to really get involved in that part of my life. I know that when I have a child, I don't want that. I would rather know what is my child's sexual knowledge then not know.
Ugh, we had "the talk" when I was in fourth grade and my mom was a Labor and Delivery Nurse (she's the nurse that helps you out when you're giving labor) so she had books and stuff. Mostly it was about babies and how they look when they're in yer tummy but then stuff bout sperm and menstration. Every now and then my mom asks us a question (us being my brother and i) and if we can't answer it we get to go through it again, which isn't fun.
I won't talk to my mom about sex because I know she thinks I'm already having it although I plan on saving myself for marriage. But I don't want her to think I'm lying to her. And I could talk to my dad if I wanted to but I dont' really.
I think I know enough and I know I'll be safe and I can handle taking care of it on my own so I don't htink it's that important for ME to talk to my parents. I know some people who always do.
Well, my parents have never talked about that sort of thing with me. I'm 18 now, but up till a few years ago I was never really even vaguely interested in that sort of thing. So I never asked anything about babies, sex etc. I was given a sex ed talk at my primary school at about 10/11, with videos and stuff, and was just like 'eww... never gonna do that'. Hehe - know better now! I foundmost of what I know out from school i nvarious years, and don't think that my parents would be totallly comfortable talking about many aspects of sex even now. Maybe thats just a difference between the UK and US parenting ideas.
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My mom and I have a pretty open relationship I guess, it's just that as far as sex goes, we can never agree! Her whole attitude about it kinda irritates me, she's all "WAIT UNTIL YOU'RE MARRIED!!!" and I make fun of her and so I think my attitude on sex annoys her too... I can't tell her anything about my life. A guy who is a year older than me is too old, kissing is going too far.... it's like, um ok mom, I'll just sit here quietly and not go have fun...
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