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Heather
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One nice thing about editing the book and also having this site is that we can afford to cut some length by cutting content, knowing I can still get it to you right here on site. For instance, we're likely to cut a "How to Be Transfriendly" list that I liked a lot, but is far enough from scope per the book that it's likely better here.

Mind, while I'm doing the editing, I do NOT have any time to write new pieces. But we should be done with this process by next month's end, at which time I will be able to write new content again, and will also have a big pile of book cuts already written, which can be other pieces or parts of other pieces. Too, since with a book like this, you have to constantly update information (sexuality and sexual health information changes SO fast) each time you edit, I'll have had my tables here full of references and statistics and such, so right when I'm finished will be a great time for me to churn out some new pieces. (After I take a few days to do nothing but sleep, that is!)

Often, when deciding what we need for articles here, I look to new news, health alerts, and I also look to trends and issues I spot here at the boards.

But if any of you have been jonesing for something you'd really like to see, or are spotting trends in your own peer groups you think could use some address, post them here, would you? I'll do my level best to make sure we get some of them going for you soon.

Thanks!

Also, over the next six months, we'll be updating the content management system of the site, including the blog, and I'd really like to get some of you users in as bloggers, not just staff and volunteers. If that is something you have interest in, drop me a line at heatherATheathercorinnaDOTcom, and let's talk about it. I'll want some writing samples beforehand, but I'd like to know your interest levels and such first.

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Definately a trend here on the boards and in real life: girls in age-disparate relationships. It would be absolutely awesome to have an article dishing out the real deal without being condescending, and I'd be happy to help if I could.

If I think of any others, I'll rattle them off. [Smile]

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Heather
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Yep: got a whole bunch on that one here half-written from before the editing-mania began. [Smile]

(But if you want to help, Luaren -- bless you -- I think for that one it'd be really nice to have a collection of quotes/posts from the girls here for that piece.)

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I second Lauren on the age-disparate relationships. Also, I think it'd be good to have a piece on communication within a relationship/boundary negotiation/etc. Seems like that'd be useful. I'd be glad to help out with either.

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Heather, I just sended you an e-mail on that.
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I want an article looking at reasons /why/ so many guys are sexually coercive. Or examining the idea that guys view women's sexuality as something different from what it really is/in limited ways/etc.

I also want ideas for educating guys who are moderate on sexual rights issues to become feminists. (just my dream, yeah). But honestly, I think there's just an awful lot guys don't know about problems facing women. Especially when you're young it's a hard issue to discuss with guys b/c in a fabulous catch-22 it often results in them thinking that you're too negative/unattractive.

Maybe advice on discussing sexuality with your parents with regards to what freedoms you want, when you and your parents have different beliefs would be another (admittedly, idealistic) sweet one.

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I'd really like also an article talking about sex pressure coming from a partner. (Why guys are sexually coercive ? like the post before mine suggested)

And what about one asserting your sex limits and the importance of doing that ?

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Woah, steady on the man-bashing. Some of us are nice. I like to think I am anyway. [Smile]
In terms of articles I'd like to see, how about the way many *boys* are made to be something they're not by society, and feel pressure to be sexually active. Something that tends to be overlooked but I feel is quite important.

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Heather
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I'm all with you on the pressure for young men to be sexually active, Jospeh. (And, FYI, that's addressed in the book.)

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How about the way many *boys* are made to be something they're not by society
Might you explain a bit more of what you mean by this? In what way?

(And no one is bashing men in this thread or at this site, period. PLEASE do not leap to that every single time someone brings up a negative issues that is pervasive with men, please? It's dismissive, honestly, especially when what's being brought up IS pervasive and IS worthy of address because of such. I think what cool was asking about was an address of the reasons why it IS pervasive for many men TO be coercive, which is, indeed, a big problem.)

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I also want ideas for educating guys who are moderate on sexual rights issues to become feminists. (just my dream, yeah). But honestly, I think there's just an awful lot guys don't know about problems facing women. Especially when you're young it's a hard issue to discuss with guys b/c in a fabulous catch-22 it often results in them thinking that you're too negative/unattractive.
That's a bit outside the scope of ST here, iheartdc (and personally, even if I were to talk about it, I'd frame it was men being pro-feminist, rather than men being feminist: men making decisions about women's rights issues and empowerment kind of defeats the point).

That would be a fine topic for the AGA, though.

And I can also certainly handle the talking to parents one, especially since that's a whole chapter mostly edited out, so when all is said and done, it'll be sitting right here. [Smile]

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I meant that although many men are sexually coercive, it's because they themselves have been moulded by society through no fault of their own - and this often gets overlooked by people, because (quite understandably) it's more readily apparent that women are being coerced. Great to hear this in the book though - we will be able to get it by mail order online?
To be honest, the man-bashing thing was based on this:
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Or examining the idea that guys view women's sexuality as something different from what it really is.
Now though, I agree that was a bit of an overreaction. It just annoys me hearing people talking about what 'guys' are like (or anything other group for that matter). So I linked the small thing I read to large things that have happened. Sorry, it just had a bad effect on me on the first read.

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Heather
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I meant that although many men are sexually coercive, it's because they themselves have been moulded by society through no fault of their own - and this often gets overlooked by people, because (quite understandably) it's more readily apparent that women are being coerced.
Society doesn't dictate what choices people make, though, however much culture and how we're reared may influence us. And I am not about to say it is "society's" fault (especially since when you're talking about the prevailing hegemony, you are STILL talking about men as a whole) for men choosing to be sexually coercive. Especially as a rape survivor, I am not about to state that men aren't accountable for their actions. Nuh-uh.

No more than I'd say that women who have the ability to choose NOT to be passive, not to set boundaries when they can, NOT to protect themselves in ways they are able, NOT to become as educated as men, what have you, are not accountable/responsible for their choices. Make sense to you?

In case it doesn't, let's try this: I come from two families in which massive abuse was prevalent. One half of my family continued that cycle: the other worked not to. And I worked not to be that way. If I HAD beome an abuser myself, while certainly, I would have been influenced by those cycles of abuse, I would STILL be personally responsible for choosing to act abusively. And that myself and my father worked to BREAK that cycle in our families would mean nada at all if we are merely passive pawns, made in a given way with no personal responsibility for our choices.

You can't have it both ways, Joseph. You ask for men to be credited for behaving well, for NOT acting in some ways in which culture may enable/rear men to act (and I'm all about that, too), but now you say men have no choice as to how they behave. So, either men get to choose or they don't: but if they don't get to choose, then men who behave lovingly and responsibly don't get special credit either, because if men don't get to choose, then those guys aren't choosing either.

In other words, there's a gaping hole in your logic, here.

(One request? Let's please not end up with yet another thread that gets derailed with apologism for men who rape or sexually coerce. I haven't the stomach for it, and I've been clear mnore than once that it's not something I'll tolerate.)

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Of course men are responsible for their own actions completely. I phrased this very badly, I just looked up the word 'coerce' - to compel by threats or force - and that wasn't the word I should have used. I think I meant more to make the point that men can feel pressure to become sexually active too, in terms of peer pressure etc. I'm not very good with words - I didn't realise fully what coercion was, I think.
Sidenote: great part for the website would be a glossary of these kinds of words.
Don't get me wrong: those who rape or sexually abuse are evil, and cause huge amounts of hurt to their victims - such as yourself, Heather, and I hate to have come across as sounding otherwise to you.
Where I was coming from was the 'there's no evil child' thing, which I've always believed in. In the last few hours, I've thought that through a bit, and while outside influences do shape personality etc, it is up to the individual to what extent these things influence you. And it is up to the individual what person they are. Your example was a very good one of this.
So, men DO have choices completely their own to make about how they act, just as women do. We're all individuals, at the end of the day, and should be judged as such.
Please don't think I meant to offend you, Heather. You've done so much for me through this site, and most of my views in terms of the scope of this site closely match what you've put up here, once I think them through and then learn to write them down properly.
And finally, while I do keep making these mistakes and saying EXTREMELY wrong things, I want you to know that it's out of a desire to learn to say the right thing. So I'm very, very sorry if I caused any offence.

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I'm sorry, Joseph, it must seem like we're all jumping down your throat here, but I'd like to point out something else you said in your post:

"Don't get me wrong: those who rape or sexually abuse are evil,"

"Where I was coming from was the 'there's no evil child' thing"

You just contradicted yourself there. It feels to me like saying a murderer or a rapist is "evil" is being too dismissive of the whole situation and helps to promote ignorance of why these people do what they do. I think the key solution to ending rape, pedophelia, mysogeny, etc is to really seek out information on it all and really observe the actions of people: how they treat each other, how they treat their children, how men treat women and vice verse. .and so on, and in doing so you will become more aware of such problems and how to end them instead of dismissing the people who prepetrate these problems as "evil."

Also, there's nothing wrong with making mistakes as long as you recognize them and learn from them. I'm glad you're taking the initiative to be aware of your mistakes, and there will always be more to learn. Hell, I've always considered myself open-minded and knowledgeable, but after years of reading this and other feminist websites I realized I barely knew squat. I regret to say that years ago I had destructive attitudes towards female rape survivors, but thankfully I know a lot more now than I ever did and I don't believe what I used to anymore.

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Well absolutely. And everyone rapist or would-be abuser that gets genuinely changed through compassion and understanding makes the world a better place. I believe in trying to understand these people (although knowing rather than understanding their logic, because it is definitely not a way I want to be thinking.)
Of course if they've already commited their crime, that in no way diminishes the hurt they've done to their victim/s. That lasts a lot longer.

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Hey Heather, what about an article addressing some of the issues that people feel like they're going to get yelled at for bringning up, like having positive self image, or choosing not to use porn, or men who choose not to be sexually active despite societal pressures? Just something saying that we'er all unique and have our own set of beliefs etc about everything and all are built differently and therefore live our lives differently and being accepting of people who seem to be living the "easier" life (that reference to the self image). I think you know what I'm trying to get at here....

One more? I would absolutely LOVE for there to be an article explaining WHY scarleteen is pro-choice. The advantages of it, etc. What this means, and how it can mean different things to different people (ie: third trimester okay for some people but not others, etc.). I think this could be a great resource for users to point their friends to when debating the issue outside the forum. Also, people who are still sitting on the fence would get that it isn't such a perfectly united stance, we all feel (I'd imagine) slightly different about the issue. Something explaining REASONS we have this feeling would also be appropriate and useful in an article setting....

just some ideas for you [Smile] And, as always, I'd be more than happy to help in any way you need me to

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Heather
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We have one of the latter. It's here:http://www.scarleteen.com/prochoice.html, and linked to on the main front page of the site. [Smile]

And third trimester abortion has NEVER been legal, for the record, nor is opt-in third trimester abortion something the pro-choice lobby is trying to work for. Just FYI, generally women who are pregnant in the third trimester and for whatever reason, will not have a healthy baby, or have a stillborn, have to have labor induced.

Nice idea for the first piece. Good food for thought.

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