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It has been a while since I've had sex or any sexual contact with someone. However the guy I've just started seeing we met up today and got a bit excited.

He used his fingers inside me and at one stage was quite vigorous, he also entered me with his penis, but not for long. We didn't have full sex, I.e. Neither of us orgasmed. However now I feel a little tender inside.

Is this due to him using his fingers quite hard, and I'm wondering if that combined with me not being totally aroused, so not lubricated enough?

As it has been over a year since I've been with anyone in that way. And with my previous partner once we became sexually active I did used to suffer from cystitis quite a lot.



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Hi prettyskittle,

It's quite possible that all of the above resulted in the pain you're feeling. If you haven't, you might want to give this piece a read:
From OW! to WOW! Demystifying Painful Intercourse

In the future, I do think it would be sound to use lube for any penetration, and hold off on that penetration until you feel aroused. If you like, we can talk with you about ways to do that.

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From what I've read online it does sound possible that he might have just scratched me inside, and may have just been a bit rough, as it didn't hurt whilst it was happening.

I still am a little sore today, it's not so much a pain but like a sensation inside on one side. It doesn't hurt to pee etc.

Obviously it is very sensitive inside and a slight scratch will cause me some discomfort, but should I just give it a couple of days to heal?

I've never had any issues previously , I think because it was all a bit rushed combined with probably being scratched that is what's causing the tenderness. Would you agree?


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Sure sounds like.

I'd just make sure, moving forward, to have partners wear gloves or check their hands first for any nails or hangnails (which they can quickly clip or file, if so), and if and when something feels super-rough, to pipe up and say something.

Same goes with things feeling rushed. "Hey, can we slow down some?" is always something anyone can ask.

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