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Aliviex
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My boyfriend KIND OF fingered me about 2 days ago. It's not really fingering cause I'm not sure if he even went in... Anyways, I'm just scared that I can get pregnant that way..?

I touched his penis and gave him a handjob and I'm actually kind of blurred about what happened. I'm not sure to be honest. We were really caught up in the moment. He came over my stomach while I gave him a handjob and he was playing with my clit/kind of fingering me..? It was his first time so he was kind of clueless.

After that we got cleaned up and he was still in the mood so we did it again but this time he came in my mouth. The problem is that I gave him a handjob again and the precum was on my fingers. I was guiding him so I'm not sure if the precum got into my vulva. I got some saliva as lubricant before fingering myself for a few seconds. Would that have got the precum off?

Is there a chance I could be pregnant? I'm 15. My period is due in about 5 days but I'm quite irregular. I have had a sore lower back starting this morning (I usually have it during my period). There is little-no discharge on my undies. But I've been feeling tired (for a whole week- even before it happened). Am I just PMS-ing?

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Hi Aliviex, and welcome to the boards.

The information you're asking about is all contained or linked here: This Is Your Pregnancy Scare Answer

We're happy to talk with you about whether you feel comfortable, confident and ready for these kinds of sex, and what things you can do - like using barriers - to take care of your sexual health, if you like.

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Aliviex
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Another question, my vagina has been really dry... Does that mean that my period is coming soon? [Smile]
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Hi Aliviex,

There is not a way for us to predict when your period is coming. However, you may want to give this a read:
Honorably Discharged: A Guide to Vaginal Secretions

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Aliviex
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Thank you so much [Smile] I feel much better now knowing that I dont actually pose a pregnancy risk. I guess I just have to wait for my period now :/
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You're welcome [Smile]

If the wait is making you anxious, you can always try out some self care:
Self-Care a La Carte

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Aliviex
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My period still hasn't come [Frown] Should I be worried?
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You said it's due about 4 days from now and that you're quite irregular. Why would you be worried that it hasn't come yet?

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Aliviex
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Maybe I'm just trying to freak myself out. If it doesn't come this month, should I go get a pregnancy test? I feel as if my body is telling myself that I'm not pregnant but I keep convincing myself I am through the "pregnancy symptoms" that may have been there since my first period.
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Do you have a sense of why you'd try to make yourself worry like that? I think that's what you'd want to focus on here, to see if you can figure out the source of that and work on breaking that habit.
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Aliviex
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I've always been a worrier. When I've got something strange happening to my body, I would research relentlessly on the Internet for the answer. I would not rest until the problem cleared up [Frown]
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I can see two different issues in what you've just written.

First, we strongly suggest you stop searching on the internet for health-related things. It's a really bad plan! For a start, a lot of that kind of stuff on the internet is full of inaccuracies and misinformation - obviously, no-one wants that. On top of that, any of us who are not medically trained just don't have the detailed knowledge required to interpret medical information properly: for any small symptoms, we can find an endless list of medical conditions that we Might have, and then somehow in our heads it starts seeming possible or likely that we have any number of scary or unpleasant things. A healthcare professional, however, will know straight away why it can't be those things. Attempting to self-diagnose is a bad plan that doesn't get the real answer and just creates lots more worry.

Whenever we have concerns about our body, finding out what's going on is a reasonable and sensible response. So, when you have concerns, a good course of action is to see a healthcare professional. Do you have someone you can see?

Additionally, if you're finding that you regularly get very worried about very small changes in your body, that's also something you can talk to a healthcare provider about. They can help you manage that worry.

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Aliviex
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Thanks for the advice [Smile] Additionally, I've been really stressed about my period/pregnancy thing. Can you please help?
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I'm unsure what sort of help you're looking for - we've already given you information, and we can't magic away stress for anyone (including ourselves!), as much as we'd like to sometimes. What help are you wishing for?

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Aliviex
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Should I be worried about this at all? My tummy does look bigger...
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Again, This Is Your Pregnancy Scare Answer

The worry you're feeling is telling you something, telling you that you need something differently from how it is: for example, maybe you're not yet comfortable with the kinds of sexual activity you had, or maybe you need some mental healthcare to help you with the underlying worries you have. We're happy to talk with you about identifying what you need and how to act on it; we can't and won't talk with people about pregnancy fears themselves.

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Aliviex
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Honestly, I don't think I'm ready. I've told my boyfriend that and we've agreed to slow down quite a bit. I'm much calmer now and I just hope my period comes soon! [Smile]
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That's a good thing to realise.

If you need any tips or help on doing the slowing down, or talking to your boyfriend about it, we're very happy to connect you with the information we have on the site and to talk with you about it.

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I've just got my period. Thanks for the help x
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My period is fairly light for some reason? Is there a problem? [Frown]
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Sometimes periods start light and get heavier, and some cycles there can just be a lighter flow. Bodies are a bit unpredictable that way, they won't always do what we expect them to do. A slightly lighter period (if it even is lighter than usual, given you just started) is not anything to be concerned about.

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Could light periods indicate pregnancy? Please help, I'm so scared all over again.
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This Is Your Pregnancy Scare Answer

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