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foswayne
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Hi, I got a problem.
4 weeks ago, I and my gf had a manual sex without any protection. Here comes the problem, I cum first,and it covered all my palm. So I wiped it just with tissue paper then sprayed it with sanitizer and then wiped it again. ( unfortunately I can't make sure that I wipe them all out.) then I used the same hand to rub her till she got wet. I didn't do any penetration to her vagi** either with finger or pen** .
My question: is there any chances for her to get pregnant?
Thanks.

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Redskies
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Hi foswayne, welcome to the boards.

Can you first assess this for yourself, using our information here: Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That? and here: http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?/ubb/get_topic/f/10/t/002611.html

If you have any questions about any of that, you're welcome to ask.

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foswayne
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Thanks, but I've read those articles two days ago
And I still can't find out the answer.

I'm still worried about the vaginal fluid which might able to carry on some unwiped pre-cum (if there were some)

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Redskies
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The second link says
quote:
If you did/were part of only anything like this, you (or a partner) had NO pregnancy risk:
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Manual sex (fingering or handjobs)
Had any actual or possible contact with pre-ejaculate but NOT during intercourse or direct (where people are naked, with no barriers) genital-to-genital contact

Human Reproduction: A Seafarer's Guide explains in detail how pregnancy is and is not possible, and why.

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foswayne
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So that means the chance of getting pregnant is almost zero, right?

Just to make sure, because she exclaimed that she should had her period today, but she didn't. And she said that her tummy has got a little bit bigger.
These things worried me so much..

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Redskies
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From what you described, the possibility of pregnancy IS zero.

It's very normal for periods to come a few days differently than they were expected. Bodies also naturally vary a little: if there is any difference in her tummy, you can be very sure it's not because of pregnancy from this incident, because it's simply not possible.

What do you think would help you to be less worried? Do you need more information about how pregnancy can or cannot happen, or anything else? Feeling very worried about pregnancy can also be because someone doesn't feel completely ready or comfortable with the kind of sex they had - might that be the case for you?

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foswayne
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Hmm..alright then
Thanks for Your suggestions and opinions
I do really appreciate it.

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foswayne
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hi scarleteen,

i got a question,
in my case, if i did accidentally touched her vaginal opening (carrying some undried ejaculate on my fingers) and rub it , would it be a certain chance of pregnancy?
ive read most of your articles, and several posts which might be relaTed a bit about my case and i still didnt found the answer.

sorry as im still worried about her late period.

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Heather
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Whether someone touched someone's vagina with their fingers on accident or on purpose does not change anything.
This still does not pose a realistic pregnancy risk.

The facts here are not going to change, but our giving them again and again is not likely to change anything either. What is much more likely to help is just waiting this out and taking care of yourself in the meantime in the ways you do, and find helpful, when you are stressed or worried about something.

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foswayne
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Okay..

Thanks for the help, Heather and redskies.
But still, her late period makes me worry.

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Heather
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But we cannot make those worries just go away, clearly.

And we will all generally survive times we feel worried about something, too. Those times will tend to pass, and we will be okay throughout. In other words, it is okay to feel worried, and it can even tell you things like that probably, sexual activity is not something you are feeling really ready for just yet.

So, again, how about you go do what we do to cope when we feel worried or uncomfortable, doing things you know soothe and help you when coping with stress?

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