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my husband forced me into having unprotected sex,and now i m pregnant.got the blood test done and it shows 4 weeks of pregnancy. i am recently married and just cannot have this child at this time. i live in Dubai. plz help me
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Hello scarednewwife and welcome to Scarleteen,
It sounds like you are in a scary situation indeed. I'm sorry to hear that your husband forced you to have sex in a way that you didn't want to and that you now find yourself pregnant when you didn't want that right now either.
I've done some research, and it appears that abortion is illegal in Dubai unless the mother's health is at risk or the foetus has some type of problem which would make survival of the baby unlikely.
What kind of support do you have from friends and famly to help you through this? I also want to check with you to see how safe, or not, you feel in your marriage?
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hello robin thnx for ur concern...i feel so alone and sad here and now that i m in this fix. i am originally from india and right now convincing my husband to plz send me back home. termination might be possible there. but still i need to no what my options are??? what did u find in your research?? and if u can suggest anything in india. plz help me...i have good support from my friends, but my husband and family are not much supportive. i feel safe in my marriage but its just that there is a lot of difference in our culture between girls and boys,hence my opinions on anything is null and void.
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Scaredwife, I have passed your question on to a friend of mine who is also Indian and has been living in Dubai for a while. She's a medical doctor, so she should have a good idea of what your options are. I'll let you know as soon as she gets back to me!
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They can tell you what your options are. They are an abortion provider as well as an excellent family planning and advocacy organization.
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Hi scared. I have heard back from my friend, and she, too, suggests that you go to India if you can, as you will have more options there. In Dubai, as you may know, you cannot have an abortion unless your life or the life of your fetus are at risk.
In India, you will likely have more options. (And Marie Stopes, as Heather suggested, is a great starting place. If you are comfortable sharing where in India you would be located, my friend would also be happy to point you towards resources.)
In India you could legally get an abortion, but it may be hard to find a provider who will do it if you do not have your husband's consent to the abortion. If you do get his consent, you should be able to find a provider fairly easily. Have you talked to him about your feelings regarding this pregnancy? Do you feel that having a conversation about that is a possibility?
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