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pocket_mouse_531
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Hey guys.
So I know I've posted on here several times asking if specific scenarios I've mentioned in my earlier posts present any risk of pregnancy. Even though I've been answered "no," on all accounts, I can't seem to stop worrying that every little thing that happens to me is a pregnancy symptom. For example, my skin has been worse than it usually is for a few weeks now, and my stomach and lower abdominal area have both been tenser and much "noisier" in terms of activity (stomach gurgling, etc). Even though I've been told before that nothing is wrong, I have to ask: are these symptoms of pregnancy? Has anything I've done in the past been a viable pregnancy risk?
One of the things I especially want to ask is how to deal with this. I love engaging in sexual activities (except for intercourse) with my boyfriend. I love kissing him and touching him and having him touch me. It's a way for us to express our love for each other, and I feel no shame in doing it. Yet I still get pregnancy scares, despite being told that none of the things I have done could make me pregnant, especially since we have never had vaginal intercourse, nor has he ever ejaculated in my presence. How do I deal with this?
Thank you all so much for your time!

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Okay I know that you guys are swamped with so many questions but I really really need your help. I went to the bathroom just now and when I wiped, there was a tiny bit of blood, very faint, on the toilet paper. My period is not meant to start for a couple more days and it's almost never early. I'm really worried that this is implantation bleeding and that I might be pregnant because of pre-ejaculate touching me via fingering.
Please please please help!! I'm freaking out and I'm so scared and I don't know what to do [Frown]

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Can anybody help please?? [Frown]
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Robin Lee
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Pocket Mouse,

I am so sorry this thread was overlooked.

It's important to remember that implantation bleeding is really very rare. Added to that that none of the sexual activities you've described in your posts here pose a pregnancy risk and it's safe to say that the bleeding you saw was not implantation bleeding.

Has the bleeding continued since then or has it stopped? sometimes people get a little bit of spotting throughout their cycle. Sometimes there's an irritation in the vagina or on the vulva and it bleeds a little. There are lots of harmless reasons for there to have been a little bit of blood. Our bodies aren't machines and they often do all sorts of things we don't expect them to.

You mentioned above that you'd like to talk about how to deal with the fact that you enjoy sexual activities but fear pregnancy so much. Would you still like to talk about that?

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Thank you so much for answering me! And it's not your fault at all, honestly it's my own fault that I put myself in these situations. Thanks for taking the time to help me out [Smile]
The bleeding has continued and has gotten heavier, so this is probably my period, right?
And yes, I would still like to talk about how to cope with enjoying sexual activities but fearing pregnancy. I do want to get on some method of birth control, but even when I was on birth control, I would still get nervous about pregnancy if we engaged in anything sexual. And we haven't even had intercourse and it still freaks me out. Like what's wrong with me? xD

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Hey, so sorry I'm back asking the same question ove and over again, but I need advice.
I've been sick with a really bad cold for the past few days, and during this time, I have been much wetter "down there" than usual. Is this a reaction to my cold? Or what is this?
Also, my stomach has been unsettled since I've gotten the cold. Is this also due to the sickness? Or is this a pregnancy symptom?
Thank you all so much for your time!

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Robin Lee
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HI Pocket_Mouse_531

Vaginal secretions change as the cycle goes on, and sometimes from cycle to cycle. Does the wetness you're experiencing look or smell different than usual?

There's no reason to think that anything is a pregnancy symptom unless one suspects one might be pregnant, which, from your previous posts here, I'm gathering is pretty unlikely. Most things that are considered pregnancy symptoms are also things that can be experienced for lots of other reasons.

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Hi Robin!
No, the wetness looks relatively normal. What would it smell like if it were different?

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Also, do stomach symptoms have anything to do with pregnancy?
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Can I insert a nudge to have a read here: Chicken Soup for the Pregnancy Symptom Freakout's Soul?

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