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soccer1994
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I am extremely anxious about pregnancy. Here is what happened:
I have been on my first cycle of birth control pills, and this event happened on the sixth day of my placebo week. I have continued to take my pills perfectly after this event to prevent any post incident ovulation.
But the event was that my boyfriend and I were dry humping. I had on two pairs of underwear and a pad (since I was finishing up a withdrawal bleed). He had on a pair of shorts and cotton boxers.
My fear is that during the dry sex, his penis somehow became exposed over the top of his boxers, and somehow pushed my underwear out of the way, resulting in genital-to-genital contact. He NEVER ejaculated, and this fact is 100% sure. I am just scared of the possibility of precum somehow getting deposited on my vulva from my underwear somehow moving away.
Do I have a high risk of pregnancy? Please help, I am terrified.

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Have you had a read through this yet? http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?/ubb/get_topic/f/28/t/006958.html

Start there, and if that information doesn't clear things up for you, just let us know and we'll answer any more questions you might have. [Smile]

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Thank you for the reply! But yes, I have read that article. I guess I am confused if I am at risk. Does my underwear prevent genital-to-genital contact? And would my birth control stop any danger from possible precum? Thanks again for the response!
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When we say genital-to-genital contact, what we mean is direct contact, with no clothing or anything else in between: skin on skin, basically. So even if you weren't on birth control, there wouldn't have been a risk. Anytime you're talking about a situation where one or both partners are wearing clothing, pregnancy just isn't an issue. Does that make more sense?

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It does help make sense. And I can't explain the great relief talking to an expert like you has given me! I guess I just have an irrational fear of pregnancy. And that must be why I am scared of possible danger from my situation. So even if there was a slight risk, the birth control would prevent any future ovulation if precum did get into my vulva?
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Glad to help. [Smile] And yep, even if any precum had gotten onto your vulva, the birth control would minimize that risk. (Although, again, I don't see a risk here to start with.)

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Ok, so you really don't think I am at risk?
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I really, really don't.

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Thank you!
And can I ask a question about birth control?

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Ask away! That's what we're here for.

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Ok! I was just wondering since I had that incident during my placebo week, if taking my next active pills perfectly would prevent ovulation, thus preventing pregnancy?

And does having a withdrawal bleed during the placebo week mean the birth control worked, and that I hadn't ovulated?
Thanks again!

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As long as birth control pills are taken continuously, the protection they offer is uninterrupted.

Again, we will remind you that there really is no pregnancy risk from the activity you described. The fact that you're taking hormonal birth control is just the icing on the cake of there being no possibility you could get pregnant. [Smile]

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That is SUCH a relief to hear! My anxiety about a situation that I even know wasn't all that risky tells me to step back from these activities.

And just another question, direct genital to genital contact means no underwear, correct?

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Yes, it means bare genitals. Mind, if one person is wearing something like a thong that ould be pushed aside they could potentially have bare genital contact while wearing underwear. But yes, if both partners are wearing underwear (boxers, briefs, and the like) that isn't considered direct genital contact.

Sounds like you're comfortable with not engaging in these activities for a while. Anxiety is never fun... [Smile]

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I do have great anxiety of this. My fear is that his penis became exposed over the waistband of his boxers and somehow pushed aside my two layers of underwear and a pad.
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But I guess my birth control would protect me from precum dangers?
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You know...if your partner's penis had come out of his underwear and had pushed your clothing aside, you would have known it. Bare skin on bare skin feels very different from dry humping.

I'm also hearing though that we can tell you these things and that while you believe us it's also not helping to allay your fears. Does this sound about right?

How do you feel about talking to your boyfriend about changing the types of sexual activities the two of you engage in?

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Thank you! You last answer just alleviated my worst condition fear. Thank you so very much for listening to my concerns:)

I honestly do feel relaxed now. And I will without a doubt will stop these activities. I am blessed to have a boyfriend who will stop if I want to. I am SO thankful for this site, and thank you for your super quick replies!
It is great to know that I didn't have a risk! Right?

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No risk. Seriously. No risk. I think stepping away from these activities is a very good choice, so kudos to you for realizing that and making that decision.

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Thank you both for being patient and answering all my questions. I can't thank y'all enough:) And yes, this has been a wake up call to simmer down.
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