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CeeKei
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I'll keep this short. Just two days ago, me and my gf were fooling around. She gave me oral and a fingered her.

So here's the deal. She oral'd me twice, but on the first try, I didn't come. But then, I was so foolish that I touched myself after that first attempt. I played with my penis for a few seconds, but I still didn't come.

So I slid it back in to its hiding place and proceeded to play with her part. Again, I was foolish enough to enter her territory without knowing if I had pre-ejaculate on my fingers. Although what I'm sure is that I didn't finger her right away. I wiped my fingers on her underwear and just played with her vulva for a few seconds. I tried to enter the vagina but it was almost impossible due to our awkward position. However, it did enter on the few cm but I didn't go deep.

On the second attempt, I was wiser and when I came, I didn't dare touch her anymore.

I urinated many times since my last ejaculation.

However, I'm still worried. I'm literally freaking out. I read your "pregnancy risk" section, but I'm still confused and worried.

Again, no intercourse was done. I didn't ejaculate near her vulva or anywhere near that place. It's just a problem of pre-ejaculate or something.

And oh, what made me worry more is that she secreted a LOT of white discharge earlier today. But I guess it's normal for girls to have that before their period (her's is due within this week). But she said it's her first time to experience that discharge.

I certainly hope she isn't pregnant. This happened around 5 days after her most fertile days (clear, sticky mucous - ovulating, I guess).

(Sorry, TMI.)

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CeeKei
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BTW, I read on some posts here in on scarleteen that:

1.) One can't get pregnant with oral, manual or dry sex;
2.) One would need to insert "handfuls" of fresh ejaculate to a woman's vagina (or vulva) in order to have a viable pregnancy risk.


Please forgive me, sex ed isn't really sophisticated in our country... actually it's almost nonexistent.

I had been looking for answers throughout the web (Y! Answers, other forums)... and they all scared the heck out of me.

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Do try not to scare yourself. One thing you can make sure you do when looking for sound information is to avoid places where people are answering questions without having to have any kind of credibility, and where answers are never fact-checked or moderated.

The kind of indirect contact you're talking about with fluids is not likely to be an issue per potential pregnancy. Pre-ejaculate often doesn't contain sperm cells in the first place, but when it does, it contains far fewer than a full ejaculation already, so then when you consider indirect transfer like that -- not so great for those cells, which are delicate -- you can cross it off your list. If anything, it's an infection concern rather than a pregnancy one.

No need to apologize, btw: it's not your fault you weren't given this information, after all.

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CeeKei
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Gee, thanks Heather. That sure pulled a thorn!

I'm never gonna look @ those public forums again.

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Or, when you do, maybe think about it like this: what they tend to be reflective of is a) what people think they should say to get upvoted or noticed, b) and what education your average Joe has had. And sometimes all those responses can be is someone stirring the pot because they're bored.

We've got a piece here that might help you navigate that: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/crisis/legit_or_unfit_finding_safe_sound_sex_educators_support_online

Would you like me to give you some links for places to look for this kind of information besides here which I know ARE sound?

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Sure, I'd appreciate it. [Smile]
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You got it. [Smile]

With pregnancy risk-stuff, Planned Parenthood -- http://www.plannedparenthood.org -- or Contraceptive Technology -- http://www.managingcontraception.com/index.php?go=home -- can be good places to start, both with absolutely sound information. If you want something more youth-focused, Sex, Etc. -- http://www.sexetc.org -- is another site something like ours which also has credible, accurate and moderated information.

The library can also be something to balance out web-research with. Most publishers employ fact-checkers with books about health information like pregnancy, after all.

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Thanks again. Sure helped a lot. [Smile]
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Uhm, I just got another reason to be worried.

My gf's period is due this week, maybe tomorrow or the day after it.

She experiencing symptoms of PMS like nausea and fatigue. She threw up once earlier today.

But what worried me more is that she BLED. She says there was a lot and thought that it was her period. After that, it went poof. She has an unusually irregular cycle by the way.

Is spotting normal before a period? I am soooooo worried that it may be implantation spotting (but she says it does not look PINK or BROWN, which characterizes implantation).

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By the way, she was soooo stressed like me. I think that might have set off spotting (I have read that stress causes some spotting.)
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Hi CeeKei; have you seen this yet: About Implantation Bleeding.? However, if you still have not had any direct penis-to-vulva contact, or ejaculate-to-vulva contact, with or without contraception, you can rule out pregnancy here.

Spotting of any colour is common before a period, here is more information on that: Spotting?

It is most likely that this spotting is just your girlfriend's period arriving a little differently than she's used to, which, again, is common. However, if there was a lot of blood, it sounds like this was her period.

Here's some more info as well on how much period flow can vary: Your Guide to Periods.

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That makes perfect sense. As I have said, her periods are pretty darn irregular.


Thanks for the advice and the links. [Smile]

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No worries CeeKei. [Smile]

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CeeKei
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No genital contact, no ejaculate contact. Again, I'm not sure about pre-ejaculate but that was already ruled out.

I remember that you were the one who posted on the other thread that, "you'll need handfuls of ejaculate in order to have a viable preg risk".

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