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Stereohearts
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my boyfriend and I were fooling around and we were about to have sex. he was on top of me and he had to reach to grab the condom and when he did, the tip of his penis kinda touched me down there and he pulled back immediately. We're both kinda unsure if thats bad enough to need ec...
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oh oh oh! It didnt touch me where the penis usually goes into and it was really quick.
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Any direct genital contact poses a pregnancy risk, but without ejaculation, that risk is very low, and EC would not likely make a huge difference here. If you feel getting EC would help you feel less stressed though, that's a valid reason to take it.

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He didn't ejaculate and I read Heather's post that pre-cum by itself doesn't have sperm unless the person had ejaculated previously. He hadn't and he had urinated before any activity.

Do you see a need for ec considering all of the different factors? Im not stressed at the moment but Im wondering if its because Im not grasping the possible risks there are.

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Honestly, it's up to you. The risk is very low, but only you can decide how much of a risk you're okay with.

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I'm not sure if you can answer this question but if not then I totally totally understand. If you were in this situation would you take ec? I know ec has some pretty serious consequences on the body and a womans cycle so I dont really want to take it unless absolutely necessary and I would really appreciate someone elses perspective.
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Personally, I would. But I very, very much do not ever want to become pregnant, and I have some mental health issues that would not be helped by pregnancy, so I will always err on the side of caution. Again, this is really up to you.

Too, EC can have some side effects that aren't fun, and it can impact your cycle, but it doesn't do any sort of lasting damage to the body - it's the same hormones that are in other birth control pills, just in a larger amount. It's a very safe medication to take. So I wouldn't base your decision on the idea that EC is harmful and to be avoided if at all possible, because that just is not the case at all.

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Thank you so much for sharing your opinion. Im basing my decision on how big of a risk it is. There is a chance of pregnancy with what happened although its low considering he hadn't ejaculated. Then again, theres a chance for pregnancy when sexual intercourse occurs right? Its never completely zero?
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The risk will never be zero if you are having the kinds of sex that can result in pregnancy, no. But in this case it is a very low risk, considering that your partner did not ejaculate.

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Thank you for helping me through this! We'll be more careful next time even if it was an accident [Frown]


Out of curiosity, pre-cum doesnt generally tend to lead to pregnancy does it? Im not planning on throwing condoms out the window any time soon haha but this is just for general knowledge.

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There isn't really any data showing how many pregnancies are a result of pre-ejaculate.

What we do know is that withdrawal - pulling out - is estimated to be around 96% effective in perfect use, and between 73 and 82% effective in typical use. (Those percentages are over the course of a year - so with perfect use, 4 of every 100 women using withdrawal perfectly will become pregnant in one year, for example.)

Does that help?

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