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So me and my boyfriend don't often get time alone together, and when we do, we tend to use taht time *ehem* wisely and productively.

Basicallymy first chance in two months to be alone with him, is tomorrow. Well.. today technically.. it's 00:48.. and I was feeling a little psyched for it, so I was doing some touching. And Great, blood. SO UNFAIR... I had plans.. candles.. new lingerie.. everything! !! AHH NATURE!!

#Now I have had false alarms before like this, but I am due and I am wondering is there ANY way I can hide it or stop myself from having a period tomorrow? In a couple days he is oging on a three month trip! THis is abdolute failure timing.. Is there anything I can do?

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There really isn't any thing you can do to prevent your period from coming if you are not already taking birth control pills (and even then it's hit or miss).

Might I ask why you feel like being on your period will ruin things? Sure, it may mean that there's a bit more clean up required after sex, but it's not as if having sex while you are on your period is fundamentally different from having sex any other time.

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Yeah, he's kinda scared of that. And I'm squeamish. I hate myself when I'm on, I just feel so disgusting. :/
But thanks, I'll just have to wait another 3 months!

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Can I gently suggest that this may, if you want it to be, perhaps be an opportunity for both of you to get over this a little?

In my book, there's nothing all that different about the fluid from periods as the fluid from ejaculate. Sex is often messy, there are fluids involved, and I don't think there's anything disgusting about any part of our bodies or their processes. Sex is also about accepting and celebrating each other's bodies, just as they are, not about being scared of them. I think spending a reproductive lifetime feeling squeamish about your period with partners is a very long time period to feel that way, know what I mean?

Maybe there are some kinds of sex you two could explore that you could feel comfortable with while menstruating, even if you don't feel comfortable trying some of them?

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I know what your going through. I would never have sex with my boyfriend while I was on my period. But one day I decided to ask him how he felt about it and he said he didnt care. As much as it made me feel weird, I decided to try it. It wasnt any different but a little more mess to clean up. Whats really important is communication. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years and we are comfortable talking about anything together.
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