Some gyns will not give a speculum exam (and therefore no pap) to someone who is not sexually active, as there's really no need. However, this can vary- if you really need to know your gyn's policy, it's best to phone and ask.
(Where I live, however, they do start to give paps when you turn 18, regardless of sexual activity- I'm not sure if this happens in the States.)
Since you're sexually active, it's VERY important for you to be honest with your gyn, as it DOES affect which tests and such they will do. Is there any way you can have your Mom wait in the waiting area for you, rather than sit in the office with you?
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