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Stacii-Jayd
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about an hour ago i had sex with my boyfriend for the first time, it was both our first times having sex.

we didnt use protection, and my bofriend said he won't cum in me, it took awhile to actually i guess 'line up' with each but when we finally did start having sex and few mins later he came in me and pulled out. i asked if he'd pulled out just before and he said no.

i'm now really scared incase im preg. i don't know who to tell or what to!

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-Lauren-
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Call your local family planning clinic. You need emergency contraception if you wish to avoid pregnancy. Do you need help finding someplace to call/go?

You'll also be needing an actual birth control method. Pre-ejaculatory fluid can contain sperm, as well, so we would have advised EC even if he hadn't ejaculated. You need to at least have some condoms on hand from now on.

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September
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http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?ubb=get_topic;f=9;t=001207;p=1#000001
Stacii, in this post from a couple of days ago, I advised you about a few things regarding this relationship. Amongst other things, the fact that you are under the Age of Consent where you live, thus making sexual activity illegal.

Also, it sounded a lot like you were unsatisfied with the physical aspects of your relationship. Understand that I am not questioning your decision to have sex - I am merely concerned about your emotional and physical well-being based on the concerns you yourself voiced earlier. If you're not 100%, really, truly, absolutely into the idea of having sex with this guy, then please don't. There is no point in engaging a sexual activity you're not really into.

And the fact that this was unprotected sex, and the fact that it sounds like your boyfriend talked you into this by promising he would pull out (which is, by the way, NOT a sound method of birth control AT ALL) and then not doing so, just makes my red flags go up all over again.

Why don't you check some of our articles and think about this some more?
Ready or Not? The Scarleteen Sex Readiness Checklist
Safe, Sound & Sexy: A Safer Sex How-To
Safer Sex...for Your Heart

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Stacii-Jayd
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thankyou.
and thanks September. i actually spoke to my boyfriend today about it and explained to him that i felt pushed into it, and explained how i felt and that i wasn't happy about what's happening with our relationship physically.
he wasn't excatly, well, happy over it but he said he was sorry and i asked to not do this again because i don't think i was 100% ready to do it.

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