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forbidden_fruitxo
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I understand the concept of pregnancy and I remain to stay abstinent. I do not have and never had intercourse with my boyfriend but we do fool around, only as a passionate sign for our love for each other but this could be a mistake. Last Friday, which would be around six days ago...we fooled around and somehow by the end of the session I had dry precum on my fingers. The precum was probably dry to about 20-30 minutes since we watched half the rest of the movie. He never touched me with his hands but my problem is, I used the bathroom and wiped myself through a tissue using the hand I touched him with [the hand with precum]. So I am pretty worried even though the chances are improbable, I would still love feedback. I am in desperate need for help. I also want to point out that I have been feeling bloated with gas maybe and today I tried reasearching more about the topic and I felt dizzyness almost fainting, like nausea. I don't know wether it is my mind that is playing tricks on me, any help would be great :]
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Nope, you haven't had a risk there. If precum has been exposed to air for more than a few minutes, it dies, so there was no viable sperm left on your hands that you could've transfered anywhere.

(FYI: But even if there had been? Looking out for signs of pregnany is notoriously unreliable. If you'd had an actual risk, the only way to know for sure would've been to take a pregnancy test.)

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Heather
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Understand that it often takes this many days just to start to BECOME pregnant, so feeling symptoms even if you had become pregnant this soon would be seriously unlikely, especially symptoms like nausea and bloating, which happen later in the game.

There really isn't a pregnancy risk here, okay?

But for future reference, as I just told another user this morning, it's really not helpful to be in any sort of denial about astinence. You may be abstaining from SOME forms of sex, but clearly you are not from others. So, be sure that you're talking together about what you need to do to have the kinds of sex you are responsibly so that you don't have to have these kinds of worries. If it's manual sex (fingering/handjobs), that's SO easy to do safely: it just involves being sure you both wash your hands before and after manual sex together.

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forbidden_fruitxo
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thankyou everybody so much! I feel relief and you all are very wonderful people to go out of your way and help others :]

I just also wanted to point out that the time length was probably more than 20-30 minutes because of the movie lengh and touching of clothes respectivley would probably rub off the semen too? and also I am pretty sure I did not touch my genitals while wiping myself but theres like all of these weird risks about how semen swim...and I know I am just some random ignorant girl rambling about how dry precum could could impregnate me, just scared. thanks for the previous advice given

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but what if the precum was semi wet but i did not directly touch myself but through tissue?
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Really, forbidden, you have nothing to worry about here. The chances of you getting pregnant from anything you've described are minimal at best. Relax.

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Heather
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I considered all the information you gave me: the answer is still that there was not a viable pregnancy risk. Really.

When you go to the washroom, you aren't likely taking your fingers and inserting them into your vagina. That's not a typical part of toileting, and sperm are a lot less crafty than you're thinking they are. Not to mention that after 20 minutes at a MAXIMUM, any vibale sperm (and since it was pre-ejaculate, it may not have contained sperm at all, since it only does sometimes) on your fingers aren't viable anymore.

But again, clearly, you're doing things that you're not ready for here, since you don't have the information to know if you're taking risks you want to or not. So, take the time to get that information, and then have that big talk, okay? Part of loving each other passionately is also passionately being invested in both partner's sanity. [Smile]

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forbidden_fruitxo
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so could my constant urination, bloating, nausea just be a form of pms?
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Heather
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You are not going to be urinating more from ANY pregnancy this early in the game, because it takes a good while for a pregnancy to become large enough to put extra pressure on the bladder.

Bloating and nausea would be common PMS symptoms, but very frequent urination isn't often so -- if that remains an issue, that's something you'd want to talk to your doctor about to make sure you don't have a urinary tract infection.

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