First off, I'd like to say thanks for the great site .. I just stumbled across it and it is very well written and informative.
Now.. my situation .. well, my girlfriends situation. To put it simply, she's about two weeks late on her period (having not had it in six weeks). This being the first time this has happened (at least during our relationship), we are both a little anxious about it.
But.. there really oughtn't be a need, I think. Because we have never had intercourse: vaginal, anal or oral. We have had "dry sex" several times, but there has never apparently been any seepage of fluids through clothing.
We have also each had manual sex (masturbated the other) but we have both been clothed all times except for two: we have each performed on the unclothed other (she gave me essentially a handjob and I fingered her), but it both cases the one performing the stimulation was fully clothed, and, as far as I know (and I've racked my brain alot), there wasn't ever any pre-ejaculate or semen thats even come into contact with her.
She has had cramps about a week and she admits (cause I was trying to be civil and not point it out) that she's been acting very PMS-y .. but she still just hasn't had her period proper.
There are also a couple reasons we can think of why she'd be irregular: 1) she slept in a bed with her brothers girlfriend when she (the brother's gf) was on her period, but my gf was between cycles and 2) she recently had a change in medications (she gets migraines and takes a few medications to prevent them.. though they don't always work)
She also thinks she may have a yeast infection or similar (which I feel bad about cause I think if she has an infection its likely to be from when I fingered her .. cause at the time I didn't really think about whether my hands where completely clean .. and I may even have accidentally scratched her, cause my nails hadn't been cut recently and we are inexperienced with this sort of thing).
She told her mom about her period being late and that we hadn't had sex, though she didn't admit to what we have done (she tends to be really shy about it all, which I understand .. though I disapprove of her plan not to share this information with a doctor if she goes in about the infection). Her mom says she's just a teenager and sometimes people get irregular; her mother doesn't seem particularly worried. The one other friend I've told about the situation, a girl with whom I am very close and often talk with on problems and such, also says its not really that much to worry of yet, and that she and several friends often have irregular cycles (though they generally have to do with long periods rather than late ones).
In any case, I don't really think, rationally, that we have much cause to worry, but my girlfriend and I are still anxious about it and wish she would just have her period already.
I guess I'm just asking, based on what I've said, a)Should I be more (or less) worried? and b) What advice you have, if any, about the situation, avoiding it in the future, etc. ?
Thanks so much for reading my long post and thanks in advance for replying,
~someOtherGuy
Posts: 2 | From: VA | Registered: Jun 2007
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your girlfriend may just have skipped a month, sometimes it happens without any particular reasons... Maybe she has an ifection, or stress... She could see a doctor, that's the best advice for her if she feels diseased.
The only thing to do now is a pregnacy test, that's the best way for you two to make it clear. I think there's no need to worry so much,with all you write about your relationship having a baby this way would be a miracle!! but you may keep on worrying, until you see the test.
for future talk with your gf, the more the better, about sex, and also about consequences, how if she get pregnant... good luck!
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Frenchie, this area is for volunteer and staff responses only.
Someotherguy- it sounds you have had no pregnancy risk, and do not need to take a test, unless it would ease your minds. Semen simply can't swim through clothing.
Your girlfriend's mom is right- often, during the first few years of menstruation, young women experience irregularity, and can even skip a period. Too, if she suspects she has a yeast infection, that could also be the cause of her irregularity.
Too, if she suspects she has a yeast infection, she should get into her doctor or GYN, and pass on to her that it's never good to self-medicate suspected yeast infections until you've got a diagnosis.
To avoid worrying about pregnancy in the future, the simple answer is to decide upon a form of birth control (for manual sex, that means condoms when it's for you, and gloves when it's for her).
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