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All Ive been doing is crying. Lets see..about 6 days ago I had my girly parts rubbed up against the male parts. Now I was in jeans+undies and he was in boxers and SWORE no pre-ejaculate came out. He checked and I checked and it was true. But that was after he pulled the thing out and I felt some leak onto my fingers so I kept it well away from my parts and made him put it back in his boxers & pants. I felt horrible after this and ran to the bathroom and I noticed after I washed my hands and went pee thats something had soaked through my jeans+undies. now Im sure that was my own fluids cause when it dried it smelt a bit of urine and I really had to pee. But Im just worried cause I thought just maybe some pre-ejaculate had gotten on my vulva or something and now Im pregnant. Ive been REALLY worried and freaking out, stressing and all that. But also my period has been light then really heavy then light and its heavy again and the pain keeps shifting while usually it stays the same for two days. Ive had my period now for two days and it seems odd. I really dont want to be pregnant cause I cant handle it and Im only 14. My boyfriend is worried sick over this and is VERY upset also and feels sick. Please help us, we dont want me to be pregnant.
And also this may not mean anything but my left side feels unusual around my hip/a little below my belly button.

PLEASE HELP Im so scared.

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Okay, from what you're describing, you had a minimal risk at most. Really, sperm aren't so hardy that they can swim through jeans and underwear!

Secondly, if you've got your period now (especially since it's been "really heavy"), it's safe to say you're not pregnant.

So breathe deeply and try to calm down, okay? [Smile] You really don't need to be panicking.

For future reference, though, guys can't tell whether they're producing pre-ejaculate or not. If he wears a condom, even for "dry sex" like this, that will eliminate any risk.

It's also worth considering that if sexual activity is stressing you (and him) out so very much, it might be worth taking a break, or considering whether you're ready for sexual activity right now.

"Do not be daunted by the enormity of the world's grief. Do justly, now. Love mercy, now. Walk humbly, now. You are not obligated to complete the work, but neither are you free to abandon it." - the Talmud

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thank you SO much Ive been spazzing so badly.

And also can you answer this: most of the time at the beginning or on the second day of my period i get brownish blood. is this normal?

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Spotting or lighter bleeding is fairly normal during a period. Sometimes the flow just fluctuates.

Sarah Liz

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