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blondebabydoll
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Ok so i took another test and it was positive, my boobs are still really sore and i keep getting sharp pains in the left side of my lower abdomen. Is that normal? The most i could be is about 8/9 weeks am going to the doctors next monday anyway i was going to wait and mention it then but i dnt know if i should try and get in to the nurse immediately to find out for sure. Do they do blood and urine tests and do you have to wait a week?
I told ma bf and showed him the test he said he really wants a baby but is worried for me because he doesn't think i could handle being pregnant! I dnt believe in abortion and i said i wouldn't get rid of it no matter what and he said he would be there for me. But i am only 19 and i am still training he's quite a bit older than me so i guess he knows better and i know having a baby would be the hardest thing in the world and my parents will go off it but if i am pregnant then i do want my baby.

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Heather
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Before I say anything else, please just remember that you ALWAYS get a choice. Even if you've said abortion is not something you'd do before, if actually being pregnant makes you think differently -- and it often does; after all, guessing how we'd feel in the abstract is but a guess -- it is okay to consider that, call up a clinic and ask questions if you want, the works. And should you be inclined to, it's always okay to change your mind.

You should not have to wait a week for the results of an office pregnancy test. How long you'll have to wait at your doctor's is something you can find out with a phone call, so by all means, call in and ask.

When you do see your doctor, again, ask all the questions you want and need to to make the right choice for you. For instance, since you've posted before about having issues with excessive dieting, it'd be a good idea if you are inclined to try and remain pregnant, to talk about how you CANNOT do that while pregnant, how you will need to gain weight, and how to get help, if you need some, in being sure to do that.

If you suspect your family will not support you, you may also want to ask the doctor to point you towards resources for aid to single mothers: it's great that your boyfriend says he'll be there for you, but often, that doesn't always pan out, so if you're going to parent, you'll want to be sure you have a backup plan for taking care of yourself and your baby should your boyfriend go out of the picture at any point.

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Heather
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(And I gotta say: it's pretty strange for your boyfriend to be worried for you NOW, but not to have been worried when he was initiating all the unprotected sex. If he's going to be a parent, he's going to have to start worrying about things in ADVANCE, not after the fact.)

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