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Ok, so I was really stupid and I have been having unprotected sex with my boyfriend about maybe the last 5 times we had sex. I had already gotten tested about three weeks prior to that but we were using condomns than (everything was normal/negative) and he has not been tested yet. I know that it takes a long time for std's to come up, but about how long? I should have known better, I feel so dumb. We had agreed to wait until we actually got married before we had sex without condomns but I guess we both figure since we're going to be with each other forever than why wait. Now, I am kicking myself in the *** for it and wish I had waited until he got tested. I am not having any symptoms but I know that most std's don't have symptoms.I am on the pill and I told him that we have to use condomns now until he gets tested, he said ok, that whatever I want to do is fine and that he's sure he doesnt have anything since hes never had symptoms and has used a condomn with every girl accept me and one other. I feel really dumb because he is the second guy I have ever been with and I should have known better. My question basically is: Since I have already exposed myself to possible stds: Is it really going to help now using condomns and how long does it take for std's to show up?

Feeling really stupid,


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Some STDs do have have pretty obvious symptoms, definitely keep your wits about you.

Get checked out again, of course... make sure he does too... and id think about pregnancy too if i were you... but yes, aside from those things...

It wont help to do nothing but beat yourself up. improve for the future (condoms!!), and clean all this up while you have time, ya know.

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Thank you so much for you input. I am making myself an appt to get checked out. I know it won't do any good to beat myself up about it, I know it will be okay, at least that's what I keep telling myself. Thanks again for all your advice, it made me feel a lot better.


PS: From now on we are going to use condoms, at least until he gets tested.


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