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lethologica8
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I lost my virginity a week ago to my boyfriend, but certainly wasn't planning on it and we used the coitus interruptus method. I told him I wanted him to use a condom and on day 11 of my cycle we had sex, but we had sex twice and he only had one condom so we used withdrawl the second time. Now of course I realize how rediculous that was since his precum contained sperm the second time. Day 14 we had sex and the condom broke as he was pulling out but I'm quite certain some leaked into the opening of my vagina. I know we're both STD and STI free and so that's not my concern, but I keep finding reasons to both be extremely worried about pregnancy and say "oh of course not" My cycle isn't very regular, meaning that I have it every month but it can be between 24-28 days long, so I dont know when I would have been ovulating. Im 11 days from getting my period if in fact Im on a 28 day cycle. Im also not on the pill. How much do I need to worry? How soon can I take a pregnancy test?
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How long has it been since your risk?

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lethologica8
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Its been 6 days since the first one and 3 days since the second
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A pregnancy test will be accurate 10-14 days after the risk. We also recommend verifying the results a week after with a second pregnancy test.

In the future, if you have unprotectes sex or the condoms breaks and you do no wish to become pregnant, you can obtain Emergency Contraception up to 120 hours after the risk.

As far as ovulation goes...the only way to know when a person is ovulating is to chart the cervical mucus and the basal temperature for 3 cycles or more, at least. In any case, doing so is best for women trying to get pregnant.

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Heather
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If it has only been three days since the last, you can get emeregncy contraception NOW and drastically reduce your pregnancy risk.

This, by the way:

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I told him I wanted him to use a condom and on day 11 of my cycle we had sex, but we had sex twice and he only had one condom so we used withdrawl the second time.
concerns me.

Why did your boyfriend not respect your boundaries?

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lethologica8
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I never seem to know how to say "no" to people, I suppose I wasn't forceful enough about the issue...He's also very pushy. I know, not the type of relationship I want to be in but I can't seem to get out of it, and now with this....
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One important part of sexual readiness -- choosing to have sex at a time you know it will be as healthy for you as possible -- is the ability to make, set and enforce boundaries with other people. If that's a real problem for you right now, it might be smart to step back and wait for sexual partnership until it is something you feel more able to do.

Of course, half of that equation is having a partner who respects boundaries when you set them: even for good boundary-setters, a coercive partner is someone with whom a lot of this is moot. And if you can't even get out of a relationship you don't want to be in with such a person, that compounds the problem, obviously.

I'm not sure how this scenario makes getting out harder, though?

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It just to me (a total pushover) seems like one more reason to hang in there for a bit longer. That's not sensible or really logical, I know.
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What seems like one more reason? Sorry, I just don't get what the what is here.

Seems to me that hanging in longer means it's likely you'll have this happen again.

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Yeah, I told you it didnt' make any sense. I've thought about what it is, and its just that I usually give in if people are persistent enough, whether its hanging out with someone or going somewhere, etc. He just doesn't give in, if he has an idea he will push it until I do give in, even if it takes weeks. That's what makes it so hard to break up with him because I've tried, he just promises to change and does for a while and then we're back in the same pattern, and if I do break up with him, no more chances, I dont think he'll give in. Also, I think that because I'm not a very forceful person he thinks that Im asking for him to convince me.
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Also, I have had a sore throat on and off and some allergies for a few weeks now and have been feeling run down from school and work starting up again this past week. emotional and physical stresses such as these have a negative impact on fertility, right? Im only applying these principles from how it works with livestock (I'm a animal science major with a concentration in reproductive physiology) but I think I'm correct in doing so, how much would that lower my chances of being pregnant, do you think?
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Per your first post of the last two, you've just listed exactly why you're with someone who isn't emotionally safe to be with, and isn't physically safe, either, at least when it comes to your body and sex.

Breaking up isn't something both parties have to agree to. If you do not want to be with him anymore, he needs to respect that and walk away. If he will not, you are not in a relationship: you are in slavery, gal.

Really, if you are worried about this risk, go get emeregncy contraception. Women can have cold and be stressed out and still be fertile, and rendering this an intellectual impossiblity doesn't mean jack to your uterus. So, effectively, none of these things should be considered to reduce your risk.

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